sipowicz
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So sorry for your loss TS...and thank you for a moving tribute.
My Father Died
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Sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers and condolences sent.
Don
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TS, sorry for your loss. It's a tough bridge to cross. Your post is quite moving.
T-Star- very sorry for your loss. Both of my parents passed away in 1990 and there is hardly a day I don't think about them. Nobody is perfect, I'll admit there were years that we did not get along too well.
Over time I have kept the good memories and do not dwell on the unhappy ones; keep the good memories of your father in your heart.
Over time I have kept the good memories and do not dwell on the unhappy ones; keep the good memories of your father in your heart.
Sympathy and condolences- my parents have been gone for awhile now, and I can empathize with having a "complicated" relationship with my dad. We spent a lot of time in conflict when I was growing up, and it was always something that overshadowed our relations in later years.
That said, all we can do is take the lessons and hopefully put them to good use. Sometimes people don't do a very good job of relationships, but if they are doing the best they can it is hard to hold it against them.
RIP Dad.
That said, all we can do is take the lessons and hopefully put them to good use. Sometimes people don't do a very good job of relationships, but if they are doing the best they can it is hard to hold it against them.
RIP Dad.
Wyatt Burp
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Really sorry, TS. What you wrote instantly reminded me of that Harry Chapin song, "Cats In The Cradle", as far as the dad parts goes. My heartfelt condolences.
Harry Chapin Cats in the Cradle (Soundstage) - YouTube
Harry Chapin Cats in the Cradle (Soundstage) - YouTube
Eaglestroker
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Family is one thing you can't pick, for better or worse. Very sorry for your loss - thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Gaffer
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Life is strange isn't it? Condolences to you TS. You great thread got me to thinking and that is dangerous for a guy just 2 weeks shy of 81 years. My own dad was tough to deal with, with a bad temper and I was scared of him until I became 18 and figured that I might at least have a chance in a fair battle. It was not good to grow up under those circumstances.
That being said, i now wish I had spent a lot more time with my own two sons. It is tough being the breadwinner and a father as well. You are torn between loyalty to your employer and spending quality time with family. The companies of that era wanted you hook line and sinker and I spent way too much time for them and way to little time with my sons.
Life is hard to get a fair shake out of, there is always trade offs that can come back to haunt you later. When you look back as I can now over nearly 81 years I can see the mistakes and the successes more clearly than at the time they occurred. Guess that is human nature!
Would I have changed any of it? I don't know, we play the cards dealt to us at the time and I guess it doesn't pay to look back and wish. What counts is what lies ahead and when that time is short you deal with it and move on. What counts most is your status with Him!
That being said, i now wish I had spent a lot more time with my own two sons. It is tough being the breadwinner and a father as well. You are torn between loyalty to your employer and spending quality time with family. The companies of that era wanted you hook line and sinker and I spent way too much time for them and way to little time with my sons.
Life is hard to get a fair shake out of, there is always trade offs that can come back to haunt you later. When you look back as I can now over nearly 81 years I can see the mistakes and the successes more clearly than at the time they occurred. Guess that is human nature!
Would I have changed any of it? I don't know, we play the cards dealt to us at the time and I guess it doesn't pay to look back and wish. What counts is what lies ahead and when that time is short you deal with it and move on. What counts most is your status with Him!
bdsorcic
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Condolences to you!
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Prayers sent and sorry for your loss. My father a WWII and Korean War vet-also had Dementia--but passed away from a Stroke.
Prayers and condolences and thanks for sharing
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A certain clear headedness,objectivity, even hard heartedness is good in dealing with family. His second wife showed a complete lack of class in not notifying you of his passing .
Out West
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Its a tough thing losing your father. True no matter what that relationship was like. Hang in there and remember the best you can find.
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silentflyer
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Condolances to you in your loss, he may not have been perfect but then none of us are.
My condolences on the loss of your Sather.
Our parents are our anchor in life, and losing either one
tears people up. Seems strange we should expect them
to be around forever....
You painted a good picture with your post. Wish I
could have done as much when mine passed.
TACC1
Our parents are our anchor in life, and losing either one
tears people up. Seems strange we should expect them
to be around forever....
You painted a good picture with your post. Wish I
could have done as much when mine passed.
TACC1
Badkarma 1
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You have my sincerest condolences. Dale
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Sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss. A distant father makes growing up a difficult time. My father wasn't all that difficult, but I wish we coudl have been closer. They say you parent as you have been parented: from your posts, I don't this that is true of your relation with your kids; good for you in breaking from the mould.
Your step-mother seems to be a totally evil person; not even notifying you of your father's death. I'm a step father and my kids couldn't be closer if I were their biological father. I'm lucky.
Your step-mother seems to be a totally evil person; not even notifying you of your father's death. I'm a step father and my kids couldn't be closer if I were their biological father. I'm lucky.
palmetto99
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My father passed 19 years ago this coming November. We were never "close". Part of it I chalk up to his generation (depression-era WW2 vet). Part of it the lose of my brother some years before. But, once my dad passed, any kind of "hurt" feelings passed too. I learned to accept him for the man he was and I also learned more about him after he passed. I also learned how proud he was of my brother and me from others (he would never say it to us). Sorry to hear about your father passing, but learn to accept (seems like you have).
