Bag, I feel for you but some of your expectations are little over the top, particularly the automobile fender one. Good luck ever seeing that happen on a car of any price. Through no fault of his own, our son recently needed a replacement fender and front facia for his $52,000 2013 Audi A6 "Premium Platinum" (or some such) edition in a $750 extra-cost, hard-to-match color on the same day he took delivery of the car. Painted body panels are not in Audi's parts catalog.
But you are spot-on in your assessment of customer service today. I am a retired auto dealership service manager and preached to my employees and family that communication is the heart of any relationship, be it business or personal. In the dealership, keeping the client in the loop was critical to success, with success being measured by customer satisfaction survey scores and repeat business.
Today, however, fewer employees are expected to wear more hats and carry out more responsibilities. Since processing paperwork and actually working on guns seems more important to the company's future than holding a customer's hand, guess what isn't a priority.
Patience on the part of the customer is crucial to a good outcome. I once bought a new Remington Model 700M-KS, a super-lightweight Kevlar-stocked Mountain Rifle produced by Remington's Custom Shop with a retail price of $2,130. Its barrel's point of impact was 21" to the right of its point of aim (POA) at 100 yards. Remington asked that I return it and they replaced the barrel only to find that the rifle still did not shoot to POA. It was eventually discovered that every barrel of that chambering that the Custom Shop had in inventory bore the same defect, so a barrel was ordered from Shilen, one of the Custom Shop's vendors.
Long story short, the whole process took over three months with much of that time spent waiting for the barrel to come from Shilen. But because I was polite and patient with the manager with whom I was dealing, they did a few other things that did not involve correcting defects but made the rifle even more valuable as their way of apologizing for the delay even though that delay was not fully their fault.
In today's bigger-better-faster manufacturing environment, quality sometimes falls through cracks. How that is made right is the true measure of a company's character.
But those cracks are the reasons I only buy older Smith & Wessons.
Ed