First, what caliber of ammo are you talking about?
Flame cutting is a non-issue with .38 ammo. I have taken a brass scraper and removed the "flame cutting" line left from .38 ammo, which was in fact a thin line of residue.
With .357 ammo, particularly with certain powders, flame cutting on the topstrap happens, but is pretty much self limiting and inconsequential in a 686.
As far as the weight of the bullet, you are simply mixing your stories, and the 686 is not a K frame with the potential to crack the forcing cone. The bullet weight is irrelevant to flame cutting.
Rachel gave great advice: clean it, shoot it, Repeat PRN