You have the opposite problem of many folks who say their slide stop/release is hard to release.
First of all, being a new gun, parts wear--recoil springs get a little looser; slide stop and the slide notch surfaces get a little smoother from wear--this condition is likely not only to continue but actually get a little easier to perform.
But all is not lost. You can adjust your slide stop to work any way you want it to by simply adjusting the friction between the lever and the slide.
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I have thousands of incidents of auto-forwarding purposefully induced on my pistols over the past 20 years. I have never had an AF fail to pick up the top round from a mag and chamber it. The physics require the mag to be fully inserted before the slide stop will drop and release the slide.
Also, it makes no difference how many rounds are in the mag since there is nothing above the mag when it is fully inserted. The compression of the mag spring has no relation to the release of the slide stop when the slide is locked back.
I regularly do an Administrative Load this way:
With the gun pointed in a safe direction, slide locked back and only one round loaded in a mag, I slap the mag home, the slide closes and loads that top round. I remove the empty mag and insert a full one, tugging on it to ensure it is properly seated.
This accomplishes two things. It fills the gun to its maximum capacity, and if the firing pin is stuck in the forward position, it would allow only one round to fire rather than having the gun go full auto and emptying the whole mag. BTW, this has never happened to me or anyone else I know, but it has happened.
Break in your new gun and adjust its mechanics to meet your needs. It's your gun. What's right for you is what's right.