Lotta good advice above. I've been reloading over 50 years and I'll chip in a few comments.
1. Don't go cheap. Save up for the necessary and buy quality. As they say, cry only once. I've got an over 50 year old Lyman Spartan that still sees occasional use, but it's gotten sloppy. Still works, but it's no longer capable of tight tolerance loading. Neither are most/all turret presses, although that's less of an issue with handgun ammo.
2. Some good points about powder selection. However, you should be aware that there isn't any practical terminal difference between a bullet traveling 1250 f/s and one at 1450 f/s. The more modest velocity can be reached with a wider selection of powders and is easier on you, your gun and your wallet. Some powders (296) are really only at their best at maximum loads.
3. Bullet selection. You didn't mention intended use, plus, there's no real reason to use expensive bullets for practice. You keep mentioning the Hornady XTP. XTP stands for extreme terminal penetration, and they mean it! Might be an OK bullet for hunting, not particularly a good choice for self defense. The best self load uses a 125 gr JHP bullet, the Sierra version does a MUCH better job of expanding while offering good penetration. The Remington 125 gr SJHP expands more, penetrates less.
The Berry plated bullets work well for practice at far less cost and can still be used for serious purposes, but aren't gonna expand. Their Hybrid Hollow Point (think Speer Gold Dot) will.
4. Primers. Unless you're at the maximum pressure load levels, pretty much anybody's small pistol primer will work with most powders. 296 and a couple of other powders are harder to ignite and magnum primers are indicated here. CCI 500/550 have slightly harder cups.