TIPPING - - SO OUT OF HAND NOW it's absurd!

[Retired LTC USAR]

We tip a decent amount when we eat out, but if we have issues with our server, we talk with the manager on duty and explain our concerns with our server.

We never punish our server for a mistake the kitchen makes.

As I have explained to my wife, if we don't let the manager know there is a problem with the server, how can they correct their behavior.

 

[moosedog]

I went to a Tim Horton several weeks ago and was handed my order by some tattooed twenty-year-old that looked like she fell face first in a tackle box with piercings and was wearing a covid mask. I told her she just ruined my appetite. No tip.

 

[swsig]

Around 1980, my daughter's best friend, Ashley, was a waitress at a small but well-regarded restaurant out in the countryside north of Dallas. The most prominent television news anchor in Dallas came in with a party of about 10 people. Ashley was the only waitress available, so she worked hard and fast for a couple of hours to make sure everyone was properly served. The Prominent Anchor magnanimously paid for the entire group. She then left Ashley a tip of $2. What a putz. She really rammed home the stereotype of women being bad tippers. I never watched her newscast again.

Overtippers can cause problems, too. In 1978 in Jamaica on a cruise, Mrs. swsig and I took the river raft ride at Port Antonio. The cruise line arranged it, and it cost about $40 for the two of us. It was fun, and at the end we tipped the raftsman $!0 which he was happy with. Some time later, a delirious and imbecilic couple tipped their raftsman $100! All of the people who rode following the delirious/imbecilic couple were strongly griped at if they did not tip $100 as well. Back on board, that couple should have been made to walk the plank.

 

[gjgalligan]

T.I.P.S.
To Insure Prompt Service

Sounds like you are suppose to tip first.

 

[Alton]

Went to a restaurant in New Hampshire this past winter. Everything was fine, nothing stood out until I received the bill. Not only did it contain the tip for the waiter, but a tip for the kitchen staff. Never going back there. I will stick to my favorite The Common Man in Windham with their New England Pot Roast and great service.

 

[dockmurgw]

I'm re-thinking tipping as restaurant meal pricing surges...the industry is blaming labor cost, what they are paying people to work. Fine, if you have to double the wage to get them to show up then that's what you have to do, but at that point I consider the tip built into the cost of the meal.

 

[Breakaway500]

I tip the delivery man who brings me tires..IF he carries them in and also takes the time to remove the old tires. They are suppose to take the old ones for free but I usually tip $1/tire taken.

Most of their delivery guys that have been there know the drill and somehow I always get my tire delivery first.

Tips are for/promote good service and are not entitlements!

 

[NFrameFred]

T.I.P.S.
To Insure Prompt Service

Sounds like you are suppose to tip first.

Not at all, just refer to Ivan's post at # 16.
He is a fan of using repetition and a light prod to train the horse . . . whereas, some (like the waitress in Moosedog's post #22) require a 2 x 4 upside the head to get the message . . .

Don't get me wrong - even these pitiful folks that have bought into our sick culture's idea of 'style' and 'beauty' are to be commended for at least working and making an effort, but as much as I strive to be kind if I can and ignore their looks if I can't, I for one agree and can't bring myself to frequent a place where the servers have that **** hanging out of their nose and impaled through their tongues, noses, cheeks and lips. It's MY problem. BUT . . . maybe, just maybe, it might cause some employers to make an effort to try to somewhat hold the line on some decent standards of appearance for their serving staff when they wonder why many of us don't come in as frequently as we used to. Want to look like a horror movie freak ? Fine . . .work in the kitchen behind closed doors - just make sure you caution those employees to keep their Hepatitis boosters current . . . .

 

[Rule3]

The whole episode was about AI and leaving a Tip. Really funny episode, He didn't tip at the restaurant and was haunted by it the rest of the night!




[ame]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48rkq90vOBY[/ame]

 

[Inusuit]

I can afford to tip generously and I do.

 

[Bekeart]

Customer Recognition for Future Service

T.I.P.S.
To Insure Prompt Service

Sounds like you are suppose to tip first.

Years ago a friend called his tips - Bribery for Future Service.
His service at later visits was always EXCELLENT!

Customer Recognition for Future Service.

SWMBO and myself tip well at our regular dining spots.

We are recognized, quickly seated at our preferred tables.
Service is always EXCELLENT.

Bekeart

 

[Onomea]

During the pandemic, when many/most restaurants were closed, I started tipping for take out that I picked up myself. I wanted to help the restaurants and their staff keep going.

I've continued tipping for take out and counter service because the staff in these places seem to be hardworking young people whose wages, I know, are meager. And as Inusuit says, I can afford it.

 

[mtgianni]

I know that the industry has more prevention measures but I still feel most tips are under reported to the IRS.

 

[Valmet]

What gets me is the breweries around where I live (Richmond VA)- they pour you a beer at the counter when you walk up/order and ask for a tip on the tablet screen.

 

[NYlakesider]

I know that the industry has more prevention measures but I still feel most tips are under reported to the IRS.

Of course only a fool would volunteerly give more money to the goverment!

 

[Krogen]

. . .some tattooed twenty-year-old that looked like she fell face first in a tackle box with piercings . . .

Now THAT'S a good one! I'll probably use it. Unfortunately, I somehow have that image stuck in my mind . . .

 

[Liftrat]

Went to a restaurant in New Hampshire this past winter. Everything was fine, nothing stood out until I received the bill. Not only did it contain the tip for the waiter, but a tip for the kitchen staff >Snip.

I've noticed a few restaurants adding that extra for the kitchen staff, calling it a "Living Wage" adjustment. I suppose it comes out the same whether they raise their prices or break out the adjustment separately, but I'd rather it was the former for some reason. And yes, tipping has gotten out of hand, though there are a few establishments that don't allow it - they get my business.

 

[tops]

I know that the industry has more prevention measures but I still feel most tips are under reported to the IRS.

I hope so! Even if we pay the bill by credit card the tip is always in cash. Larry

 

[Muss Muggins]

Those topping and fruit bins don't fill themselves . . .

We went out Saturday evening with our regular Saturday night 4 couple group and dinner was absolutely spectacular. We ate in our favorite Sushi restaurant, however as great as the dinner was, they really don't have much in the way of desert. We knew that going in and we did seek out a Yogurt Store nearby (first time going there).

The Yogurt Store is self serve, the kind that you walk in, grab a bowl and fill it with your choice of any or all of 18 flavors, toppings and fruit and then the group (or individual, but in this case desert was on me) places their bowls on a scale and you pay by the ounce - regardless of what the combo of ingredients are. The bill came to $42 bucks and I inserted my Visa card to pay. As soon as the charge was approved, a tip screen came up - HA. I could not contain my frustration and asked, "a tip
- for what"!!?? This is a self serve establishment! We were not so much as handed a bowl, napkin or spoon.

Needless to say, I did not leave any tip but received a nasty look from the cashier who I truly don't even know how to describe! We will not be going back their to be treated like morons. Oh, and BTW, the waitress at the Sushi restaurant was such a great server, we left her a 30% tip - no kidding! I generously tip as deserved and do not tip when nothing at all (not even a thank you for coming) is done.

This has really gotten totally out of hand!

 

[dave1918a2]

I am usually a generous tipper. When I ordered stuff for a class reunion and told the Owner I needed to leave a tip, He refused saying You picked it up, We just cooked. As to an above post about the proverbial tackle box. When I get a waiter/waitress full of piercings ( ears full of rings, eye brows full of studs, nose full of rings/studs, spikes below the lips, rings in the lips and tongue studs) I simply get up and ask for the manager. I tell the manager that if I wanted a freak show I'd go downtown to eat. May not be PC, but I am paying and I don't really care if I offend someone. Last time someone looking like that with tats added in came to Our table at a gun show My comment was " the things You see when You don't have a shotgun!" Get away from My table.