Why I'm a bad business man....

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I'm an AWS Structural Steel code and New York State DOT certified welder. In addition to my full-time job, I have a side welding business. It's a "real" business. I have a dba (business name) registered with the county, I'm insured, etc.

A few years back, I welded up a stainless steel exhaust system on a Mustang GT for a guy that lives a couple miles down the road for me. I also did some welding on his snowmobile and tractor.

A couple weeks ago, I get a call from his brother, whom I didn't know. He told me his brother said when it comes to welding, I'm the man. It turns out he has a really nice 1968 Chevy Nova SS and needs a weld repair. One of the leaf spring mounts had broken off the rear axle and was cracked in three places. I took that part with me and did proper repairs on the cracks. Gouged them out, did full penetration welds with a TIG welder, etc. He texts me Thursday and asks when I can come back to weld that part back on to the axle. I said I'd be there tomorrow after work. So, on Friday, I hook up my trailer to my Jeep that has my Lincoln Ranger 250GXT portable gas engine welder on it and drive over to his house. As I'm setting up to do the job, he asks me what it's going to cost. I explained that I probably had almost an hour into fixing the cracked and bent leaf spring mount and prepping it for welding. I told him that my hourly rate for portable welding is $125 an hour and it wouldn't take more than that.

He then tells me that he only has $31.00 because his dog was sick and he had to take the dog to the vet. He doesn't work. Retired since a car accident that he was in. He told me that his wife kicked him out because he got the dog and she didn't want a dog. He told me the dog helped him deal with the depression of losing his job. He also lost his best friend in a "suicide by cop" incident about 10 years ago. I remember when that happened. It was two streets over from me. Then he goes on to tell me that he had been suicidal at times and when you're suicidal, a lot of your friends stay away.

He stuck the $31.00 in my hand and said he was expecting his check any day. I did the weld job on the Nova and told him he could pay the balance whenever he had it. I actually tried to give the money back to him because I didn't want to leave him broke but he wouldn't take it. Honestly, after hearing all of his problems, I don't care if he ever pays me. I'm just glad that I could take care of one of his problems. That, in a nutshell, is why I'm a bad business man. But, at least I have a conscience.
 
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Guy should have waited until he could pay you to call you out for a job, but you are indeed a very kind man.
Bad businessman (in this instance), but a good man. :D
 
Haha!:D;):D He knew what he was doing. You're nice for doing the work on "credit" but people like that ruin it for the next truly needy person.
As a residential contractor, I occasionally do volunteer or pro bono work. After a tornado a few years back, I was referred by a friend to a single woman who's double wide needed a roof. The insurance company was only going to pay to replace one slope of the 3 tab roof. I got members of her church together with one hired man to provide the labor and used the insurance money to buy architectural shingles and supplies to do the entire roof. It was satisfying work.
A year later, her grown son calls me. He, too, had an insurance claim on part of his roof. A tree had fallen on the corner of his house and busted trim and framing, etc. His story was this: he's on disability, he already spent the insurance money on property taxes, he knew what I did for his mother and wanted me to do his job free including the purchase of materials.
I don't want to be negative Nelly, but he didn't look very disabled to me. There were all sorts of "projects" going on around the house and this work wasn't that complicated. I guess his presumptiveness was offensive to me. I put him off for several months until he quit calling. I wasn't willing to do his for free or on "credit" but it hasn't stopped me from helping others since.
Don't let one bad apple ruin your outlook.
 
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I quit work 20 yrs. ago and since then I have not charged anybody for helping them. I have worked on some projects where they were expecting to pay but when I finished I wouldn't take any pay but I am selective in who I help.
The world is full of people that will let you help them all you want too. I don't have time for dead beats. Larry
 
I want to hope and think that I'm not a massive skeptic, but I... well, I don't need to elaborate.

It does seem to occur to me that his brother who recommended you might or should have been aware of his dire financial situation, and thus perhaps he could have jumped in and helped out or not recommended you at all.

Another way I might put it...

If I felt like I had a killer "GO TO" man for a particular job, I would most definitely refer as many folks to him as I could, but I would not send him even one person who isn't solvent.

And the skeptic in me would also duly note that this gent didn't need a repair on his 2006 Toyota Corolla so he could get groceries and get his beloved dog to the vet. Instead, he needs welding work on a classic muscle car perhaps worth many tens of thousands of dollars in the nutbar market these have become?

Ahhhh I'm being the skeptic I don't care to be. You did a great thing.
 
I'm 76 and soon to up that. Town I live in has a lot of Senior Citizens. I call them the Sunset Crowd. Several struggle to walk and most won't ask for help. After this disastrous hail storm Us old guys that can get around have been helping out those that can't. Have some young whipper-snappers (4 H) helping also. Boarding up windows, cleaning up tree limbs, and sweeping up glass. Sure is nice to see the youngsters out helping.
 
Over the years I have helped several single moms with household and HVAC problems. They pay my cost for the parts (sometimes on no due date credit) and the Lord has always compensated me for the time involved. (I have never been stiffed on the parts either!)

Many don't see it this way but: God has paid my bills when I was desperate and when I was "Fat-n-happy"! His favor is more important than any amount of cash!

Ivan
 
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