Funeral expense question

[Marshwheeling]

Donate your body to Science. Around here, that means the University Memorial Society, which means the U of M medical school. Just give them the word and they will send out a couple of respectful young men in khakis and running shoes, with tuxedo jackets. They bring the hearse and the gurney, and take about ten minutes to load up the "remains" and wheel them out, all done very respectfully.

Two to three months later, when Science is finished with the cadaver, you get a simple urn with the ashes. Do with them what you will.

Cost to you: $0.00

 

[Rule3]

Donate your body to Science. Around here, that means the University Memorial Society, which means the U of M medical school. Just give them the word and they will send out a couple of respectful young men in khakis and running shoes, with tuxedo jackets. They bring the hearse and the gurney, and take about ten minutes to load up the "remains" and wheel them out, all done very respectfully.

Two to three months later, when Science is finished with the cadaver, you get a simple urn with the ashes. Do with them what you will.

Cost to you: $0.00

Plus you may get some Hot Co Ed Med Student playing around with your "parts"

 

[shouldazagged]

I know some folks enjoy being cavalier about such things, but burial sites aren't for the dead, they're for the living. A nice place for the spouse, children and grandchildren to visit now and then for remembering the departed isn't necessarily such a bad idea.

Understood. But before we arranged my wife's cremation all of her kids and her one living sibling agreed. My kids and my brother and sister have also agreed to my plans, as did my parents before they died. We had no intention of doing that without the blessings of family.

My sister also wants cremation; but she does occasionally visit our parents' graves.

 

[greenmachine]

I had identical twin cousins that died about three years apart. The first to go was cremated. When the other twin died (two weeks ago) part of the cremains were placed in a vial and buried with him. I understand some of the cremains were also sprinkled around his favorite deer stand.

 

[whiplash52]

Consider moving?

I have two plots for sale in Grand Junction, Colorado!

 

[BaldEagle1313]

When Dad passed away he stipulated cremation, and he and step-mom found a nice place overlooking the Spokane River for the ashes. I think it was around a grand to fifteen hundred, but I wasn't part of the details. Mom has pre-paid for everything, and already has a plot near her parents and sister. Again, not in the loop on costs - but it was enough that she didn't want us kids shelling out a bunch of dough on her burial.

I'm making plans to do what Marshwheeling suggested. After the organs get donated (assuming they are viable upon my passing - you never know how it's going to happen) the rest goes to science.

I suppose I feel about funerals the same way I feel about weddings. Why spend the equivalent of a down payment on a house? There are better uses for the money.

 

[carpriver]

My parents both decided they would be cremated, they had a single cemetery plot which was used to intern the ashes. All 3 of my brothers agreed with their decision.

I would like to be taken into the woods and laid in a clearing and let nature take it's course. But there is some state law that won't allow it. So my second plan is for my son to built a big funeral pyre and cremate me and leave the bones for the wolfs. If that's not allowed just cremate me and pour the ashes in a pile on the shore of Lake Superior and let the wind carry me were it will. My wife also want to be cremated and have her ashes spread along the lake.

My instruction for when my adventure ends are simple. My obit will say" Norm Satterly, 1947- 20??". no funeral just a quick lunch and be done with it. Grieving is done alone, we grieve in our own way. A service is a public display for the public. The love I give/gave to my family and received while living it what is remembered not how I looked when my body was on display.

 

[Old TexMex]

A Burial at Sea

Lykes Lines Shipping had an engineer that worked for them many years. All on the same ship.

Thirty odd years on that same tramp. When he passed away, his request was to be cremated and ashes spead at sea.

The big wheels turned and the ships superstructure was to be freshly painted and the ceremony performed.

All was ready, though the weather was overcast for several days prior, so the paintwork was delayed to the last moment.

Family, crewmembers and company officers were assembled on deck as the ship steamed offshore, and the Captain swung the ship downwind and slowed to allow the ashes to be cast off the bow.

At the moment of tossing the ashes, the breeze shifted and the old engineers dusty remains were blown up and back, over the mourners heads to be permanently stuck in the still wet paint of the superstructure.

The old chief just wasn't giving up the ship he'd been on since her keel was laid.

Sorry about the thread drift, Caj.

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Well, after receiving many answers and a nice PM I shall rethink my tone in the original post.
Might be easier just to get cremated and then have the boy rent a post hole auger drill down 5-6 feet and just plop old dad down the hole.

 

[PA Reb]

No concrete here. Just coffin and dirt. Personally I'd rather save everyone the time, money and energy and just toss me in the woods somewhere and be done

Sent from my SCH-I545 using Tapatalk

In most states and cemeteries, that's illegal. At the very least you must have what is called a grave liner.

 

[O2Guy]

John Prine is my funeral planner.

Please Don't Bury Me John Prine - YouTube

 

[PA Reb]

Well, after receiving many answers and a nice PM I shall rethink my tone in the original post.
Might be easier just to get cremated and then have the boy rent a post hole auger drill down 5-6 feet and just plop old dad down the hole.

You will also need an urn vault to do that!

 

[Arik]

Maybe. I was at a funeral just after new years. I don't remember seeing a liner of any kind but then again I wasn't actually looking

Sent from my SCH-I545 using Tapatalk

 

[Salty RI]

In most states and cemeteries, that's illegal. At the very least you must have what is called a grave liner.

That is illegal here also, but people do it all the time, I have a lighthouse just down the street from me and I see people spreading ashes all the time.

 

[WuzzFuzz]

Caj,

There is always a alternative.....In this case it would be burial in a Mausoleum.

I don't know for sure if all burial grounds in La., the remains are above ground because of the high water table. Because of your question, are there places in La. where a person is laid to rest in the ground? Or are you possibly considering a final resting place at least at a location that is at least 1000' above sea level?

Next, as far a cremation goes, by Orthodox Jewish and by stanch Catholic religion is is prohibited because it is considered desecration of the body.

And as a final note, burial was to fulfill the judgement of Adam's fall..."Dust thou art, and unto dust thou shalt return."


WuzzFuzz

 

[POPPER]

It's all about money as I see it. When you're dead you're dead OK? So forget all the BS that lines the pockets of a funeral home of your choice. My wife and I both decided to be cremated at roughly $2000 a piece no services plus the cost of a tombstone. Our choice. OK? When you're dead and gone why in the heck would you want to dump money into a funeral home instead of your loved ones. Makes no sense to me. All we have to answer to is our maker from here on. We either gave our life the best we could or not! Correct? Sorry but that's my take on this. Popper!!

 

[jlrhiner]

Here ya go, Caje!

Loved One Launcher | Scattering Urn | Ash Scattering Canon

 

[CW Spook]

My wife and I are talking about having a stone set in the pioneer cemetery a few spaces away from my great-great-grandfather who bought the land in 1855. I really don't much care where my ashes finally reside. I'm thinking about having them passed on to the US Navy for a formal military burial at sea, as I'm a Navy vet, and my pilot friends who could dump them at the apex of a loop are passing too. At the last day, we'll all be changed anyway....

 

[zoom6zoom]

My cousin says she's gonna have her husband cremated, and spread his ashes on the sidewalk the next time it snows. It'll be the first time he's done anything useful around the house in years.

And people are now pre-paying for their funerals, the money going into a state certified trust fund.

But it really ticks them off if you call it "the lay-away plan"

 

[jag312]

It is in my will that I be cremated and my ashes spread in Wolfen Meadow in Stanislaus National Forest. My best friend already has the map to get to Wolfen Meadow, and it will be his responsibility. At one time I wanted my ashes buried in the football field at my college, but they replaced the grass and dirt with artificial grass.