The one that comes on it is pretty standard for entry level ARs. It works, but you can grab a much better one for like 30 bucks. Mine is a Magpul CTR because I like that it has the lock that eliminates most of the wobble. Much more comfortable too. The model down from that is pretty much the same thing without the lock.
Whatever stock you get, just make sure it's mil-spec size and not commercial.
It means be prepared to have your ears blown out if you fire it inside a house without ear-pro.
Depending on where you live, an AR might not be the very best choice for home defense. I live in the Detroit area with houses on top of one another. A miss under stress with a 556/223 around here has the realistic chance of killing somebody I did not intend to shoot. Of course in an urban area, any round can do that, but a 45acp from a 4.6 in. barrel will have less chance than a 556/223 from a 16 in. barrel.
Also, being in court in a self defense case in Wayne County with a hotshot anti 2A prosecutor holding up my terrifying black "assault rifle" to a liberal jury does not inspire a lot of confidence in me.
It may be completely different where you live.
My opinion only. A light is probably a good idea like the other fella said. Streamlight makes some good ones that, while not dirt cheap, are also not preposterously expensive either.
A laser from across a room MIGHT be helpful with quick target acquisition. It's also another expense and would have to be trained for. Personally I wouldn't favor a laser, but YMMV.
I would want to know if this is a problem with lower end red dots or if maybe your eyes just don't like red dots past a certain amount of time. Maybe a bit of both? Not sure how to find out without being able to try different sights.
The other fella mentioned Eotech and Aimpoint I think it was. Those are definitely first rate pieces, but they will also cost most of and maybe more than what you paid for the rifle itself.
Not for home defense. A magnifier increases the practical range of a red dot. Any home defense scenario defensible in court will not be at a distance greater than any decent red dot is easily capable of.
There's nothing wrong with having different sights for different applications too. A magnifier or scope will buy you a couple hundred more yards than a red dot alone. With good mounts you can switch them back and forth without losing zero.