The long story, or the condensed version?
We could go into a lengthy discussion of internal ballistics, external ballistics & terminal ballistics as they each relate to the energy calculations, BUT - -
The short version;
heavy bullet, greater bullet drop at longer range BUT better penetration at moderate range.
light bullet, great velocity/trajectory but lacking the deep penetration of the heavies upon impact.
For me & mine, no matter how the marketing hype tends to lean, I will stick with what works, before trusting my defenses to new advertising "energy" figures.
After all you already said it, "because I know from experience it works on the street".