If I thought that there was a real problem with the 19/66 firing magnum rounds, I would not own so many.
My two high round count K-frame magnums are a 19-4 with over 12,000 rounds (about 3000 of those were 158 grain 357's) and an ex Chicago PD 66, with who knows how many rounds through it (I've put just over 6000, 2500 of those 158 grain 357's) with absolutely no problems. No cracked forcing cones, no endshake, no top strap stretching, and very little forcing cone erosion. Did I mention that almost every one of those thousands of rounds was with jacketed ammo? I don't reload, and rarely if ever shoot lead rounds. I hate cleaning off the lead build up afterward, and personally think that poor cleaning of forcing cones on these revolvers may contribute to any "problem".
I'll repeat again for the benefit of any folks who are new to the K-frame magnums, that in thirty nine years of carrying, qualifying, shooting and generally collecting model 19, and model 66 revolvers, I have yet to see a cracked forcing cone, or stretched top strap for that matter, in person. I have seen photos of cracked forcing cones on the internet, and noted that all of those were on model 19-5's (first variant with a crush fit barrel) and every one of those model 19-5's were filthy dirty, or very poorly cleaned/maintained. IMHO, combine those factors with 125 grain 357 screamers, and you MIGHT have a problem.
Keep your K-frame magnums clean, practice/IDPA with 38's, and 10% 357's and your grandchildren will be enjoying those revolvers.
Oh, before I forget, will anyone who has ever seen or HEARD of a cracked forcing cone on a model 66 please step forward...........<crickets>........yep as I thought. I've never seen or heard about one either.
Quit worrying and enjoy your Combat Magnums. Regards 18DAI.