Bullseye is an excellent powder for the .41 magnum as long as you don't want "magnum" performance. As a light plinking and extremely accurate load it is hard to beat. However, as you seem to realize, it's not a good choice for your needs, or wants.
I use 8 grains of Unique for a defensive load also. It showed very good accuracy, hits hard yet is controlable for fast shooting.
When I carried a .41 magnum on duty I used a 210 gr. SWCL bullet over 14.0 grs. of Blue Dot to duplicate the power of my duty ammo. The hoopla about not using Blue Dot in the .41 magnum was the reason I switched, although I've never heard the reason why it's alright for the other magnums but not the .41.
For all out magnum performance I used to use H110, which is the same as 296. It works alright but one reason I switched was the fact that it can only be reduced about 3% from max. listed loads. This may not matter to you, as it doesn't to many, but since I shoot at longer ranges accuracy is somewhat important and the best accuracy isn't always at the max. capacity. So I switched to 2400 for my "hot" loads.