Back in the '70s, when I reloaded my 9x19 carry ammo, I used 115gr. Sierra JHPs over a max. load of Herco, using, I believe, the Speer #10 Manual, but I might have still been using #8. The loads were basically a case full of powder, but I don't recall the charge weight. That bullet and that powder are still good choices. I shot a coyote with it at about 20-25 yards with my old Star BKS, and it was one of the fastest, if not the fastest kill I've ever seen on a coyote. Cor-Bon loads the same bullet in their +P version, and it has worked well in lots of self-defense shootings. I am not a fan of bullets heavier than 125 grains in 9x19. If I were going to hand load self-defense loads in 9x19 today, I'd likely pick Speer 124gr. Gold Dots and either Herco or AA#7, whichever gave the most velocity.
When I was loading lots of 9mm in the late '80s and early '90s, I usually used AA#7 under 124 gr. bullets, both cast and jacketed. I don't recall the load, but it was at or near max., likely from Speer #12. Those loads were for range use only. AA#5 is good, too, but #7 will get you more velocity safely than will #5, although it is a little dirtier.