As folks have said, the Beretta 81 is a great choice and safe to carry. But I will also admit that I carry my 70 New Puma Cocked & Locked far more often than the 81.
With reference to the Beretta 84 with a de-cocker, there is always the Browning BDA .380.
Always wanted a Beretta 81 or 82. Just can't justify another pistol in a different caliber.