I had some nice looking wooden grips but they hurt my hand (advancing years and arthritis), I tried some other wooden grips but wound up with the OEM rubber ones.
Craig Spegel's checkered Boot grips are my first choice J to N frame. The Uncle Mikes are licenced copies in rubber..
Second favorite is the wood Hogue Bantam.
I've got one J-frame .357 a 3" 60-10 micro 5 shot 686....
My lightest is a 337PD at 11oz.
IMO .357 out of a 1 7/8" barrel is a waste ..... I'm not a believer in the one shot stop and carry .38+P hollow points with the intent to go for a fast double tap.
That said I do load the 60-10 with 158gr .357 soft points ....... for emergencies.
I currently run Bantams on my .38 Special Js. all steel frames. I've fired up to Hydra Shok 147 +P+ through them with those grips. While they're small and don't cover the backstrap, the rubber material has enough absorption to mitigate harsher recoil better than other boot-style grips, including the Uncle Mikes.
The only .357 J I had was a Model 60 2 inch years ago and didn't care for shooting magnums thru it with anything but Pachmeyer compacts, which don't do anything for concealability - the reason most of us have J-frames. But recoil is subjective, as are grips. Some of the other Hogue offerings might be a good compromise between concealability and taming recoil. Its not uncommon for someone to have a box full of revolver grips next to their box of holsters...