I must say I feel your pain I'm in the middle of this at the moment with my wife as well, with a grin I say she's been ruined after falling in love with my CZ SP01 tacticle/Cajun gun works trigger job.
But now we are moving on to her carry options and frankly she isn't willing to dress differently, soooo, that will put her in the bodyguard, rm380, lcp, kahr no good for her due to the terrible hard slide rack, sheild's to big, even lc9s is to big.
it's tough, so buy her two guns!!! one to love shooting and one to carry for safety, and for she likes purple buy her purple lol