I have a 3904. I have been using cast lead since forever (because although I have the gun, I cannot legally buy shells for it, but I certainly can MAKE them). I started off with some different Lyman and Lee moulds but have pretty much settled on the Lee 6-cavity mould that has the Mold # of 356-125-2R. It is not the tumble-lube bullet TL356-124-2R which I have also tried but was not accurate enough for my tastes. The .356-125-2R weighs 130 grains using my mix, which is actually quite hard, not soft. The bullet is quite accurate and I size it to .356 using Bullseye powder, 4.3 grains. I am sorry I do not remember the exact LOA of my loaded round, but it's seated to just where the bullet starts to turn in. All my loading data and stuff is not anywhere near me, so I can't get you the figure right away either but you might have to play with LOA like I did anyway because what works best in mine might not work best in yours.
I am very happy with the load for just banging off with. I have a Saeco 140 grain SWC mold on the way, and when it gets here I intend to experiment with it as well. However, that is for the future.
I have used the 356-120-TC conical bullet from Lee also, and it works well enough but has a shorter LOA than I like. It works fine, no problems, but I just like "the look" of the longer round-nose round better. Both feed well but I can get better accuracy with the longer bullet because my 3904 seems to be VERY partial to having the just the right LOA.
Velocity is right around here with this load from my barrel. (This is NOT our range, but some disgusting hole-in-the-ground we used to have.)
Accuracy is fine. It was back in 2005 that I took this photo BEFORE we moved to the Queretaro Gun Club with it's oppulent facilities. I should point out that -- at least in my particular pistol -- LOA REALLY matters! I played around with several types of cast bullets and couldn't get it to shoot worth a darn. Then a friend "suggested" I try various lengths overall to see if it had any effect, and by golly, it SURE did! Once everything is set right, the pistol shoots very well indeed with cast. Otherwise, it is not so great. At 25 yards it will stay inside the 8 inch "10" ring all day long of the NRA-D3 target, but won't stay inside the 4 inch "X" ring -- but ALMOST. This one was just a rather exceptional 3 shot group I HAD to photograph. Crimp is a Dillon Taper Crimp applied just before the bullet starts to turn in and it's important that you have a good bullet hold because you do NOT want your bullet pushed back into the case during the feed cycle causing enormous pressure spikes. Hope this info helps you.