Common courtesy not so common these days.

[NYlakesider]

My kids were taught the correct way and did it. Unfornituely my sons adopted daughter was not. O well fecal matter happens!

A few years ago my sons best friend got married and being I consider him as my 3rd son, him/wife got a decent check from me. The day after they came back from their honeymoon he made the drive to my place and they personally came over to thank us for the gift.

 

[fatcat3]

Yet another dog whistle thread to summon vinegaroons for the sole purpose of denigrating younger generations because they don't do things the Boomer way.

We can do better.

Ohhhh give it a rest
This is what long timers do and always have done. They have earned the right. Doesn't matter if it's the last gen. talking about the next or "back when I joined the corps, army, football team..." There is no doubt in my mind way back in history Ug said " Back in my day we had to kill our Mammoths with a pointy stick, none of this flaked stone crap lashed to our spears. That was real hunting"
Ha, Ha, Ha, Ha, cough, choke, gag, fire up another coffin nail, chuckle.

 

[Wickerboots]

I'm no boomer. Gen X. Expressing gratitude and appreciation never goes out of style.

True, however context could help you/us see where they are coming from and why.

Maybe you sat your kids down and threatened punishment or guilt tripping until all their thank you's were sent? It could've been enough that they didn't repeat the practice with their kids.

Do you communicate well with them or mostly talk about them behind their backs? As in your example of seeing if anyone else got a thank you note. Gossiping and the like is a bit like the polar opposite of what you silently (silent to them) expect of them.

Maybe next time include a stamped /addressed envelope and try to start conversation with them about gift. That would be an option for the social lubricant. I would hope you want communication with them from a loving place and not a familial obligation, if it's just an obligation they are doing you both a favor.

While genuine gratitude and communication is great, forced is not. When it's forced it's not really gratitude or communication, might as well talk to a mirror and thank yourself at that point.

 

[Bald1]

True, however context could help you/us see where they are coming from and why.

Maybe you sat your kids down and threatened punishment or guilt tripping until all their thank you's were sent? It could've been enough that they didn't repeat the practice with their kids.

Do you communicate well with them or mostly talk about them behind their backs? As in your example of seeing if anyone else got a thank you note. Gossiping and the like is a bit like the polar opposite of what you silently (silent to them) expect of them.

Maybe next time include a stamped /addressed envelope and try to start conversation with them about gift. That would be an option for the social lubricant. I would hope you want communication with them from a loving place and not a familial obligation, if it's just an obligation they are doing you both a favor.

While genuine gratitude and communication is great, forced is not. When it's forced it's not really gratitude or communication, might as well talk to a mirror and thank yourself at that point.

I'm not sure what you're saying. I NEVER had to set my kids down and tell them anything. They didn't need to be told. I set a proper example for them. And to be clear I'm referring to a nephew and friends of my stepson. As for gossip. I have 4 sisters. Asking one of them if they received a thank you is not gossip. It's me simply trying to figure out if mine was perhaps lost. As to context, myself and my father ( uncle and grandfather) were the best male influences he had growing up. His father was a lazy dumbass. My father and I did A LOT for him growing up. At one point I loaned him money to buy a Ford 8N while he was waiting on his tax return. He thanked me. So I know he knows how. Which is worse than someone who doesn't even think about it

 

[Rock185]

It's not boomer stuff. The attitude of entitlement is an indication of the coarsening of society. We consider a thank you common courtesy. We taught our kids to show appreciation for a kindness. Now years later as adults, they still do.

 

[THE PILGRIM]

One of them Inverse Relationship Situations.
In spite of easy access to numerous communication methods,
We seem to have less communication.

 

[Bajadoc]

If I didn't get some kind of thank you, I would understand that the gift was not appreciated. I would take that hint and not bother them with additional gifts. Fortunately, my family and friends are big on the custom of courtesy and I have not experienced this inconsiderate behavior. My wife keeps a scrapbook of thank you notes and, on occasion, they are a joy to read through. Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.