Drunken Vandalism, Last update(I think), go to first post, latest news on first post

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There's a resort and community 6 miles from home. I go there for physical therapy. My wife comes with me on her days off. There's a game room in the indoor aquatics center where my wife does jigsaw puzzles.
Today when we got to the facility the 3000 piece puzzle she had been working on was scattered across the table and some of the pieces were on the floor. The other tables and chairs were strewn around the room, the stereo was pulled away from the wall and the cords pulled out the back, the small 'fridge was pulled halfway off it's table, the satellite tv no longer works and there was trash and filth on the floor. Also, the truck used for facility maintenance was sitting nice and neatly in it's designated parking place with the front end all smashed in. The police were called and printed the truck. They didn't print the game room because there were too many different people that use that room.
There are residents there, some have a trailer in the campground, some live in the condos and others bought some land and built houses. One of these people is a guy that just recently went on disability, hitched a trailer to his truck and moved there to start over. For the last month he's had his 20 year old troubled son living with him. This boy's the main suspect, apparently he's been causing trouble at the facility, he has a criminal record and he's done this kinda thing before. His father told me that he read his son the riot act for coming home drunk last night.
What's wrong with some people?

Update,
Turns out that it was the boy. As I was driving to the facility, the boys dad was driving with a load of scrap metal in the back of his truck to take to the scrap guy in town to cash in. He told me that the cops came knocking at his door this morning and his son admitted to getting drunk on vodka and taking the maintenance truck joyriding and smashing the front end into a tree. He went on to tell me that the boy then walked back to the trailer, got dad's truck, drove back, pulled the maintenance truck out of the ditch and drove it back. then he walked back, got dad's truck and drove it home. All without dad noticing. It seemed possible, I saw the tree and the ditch and it was just a couple of miles away. He also told me that boy's going to jail.
The story I got from both the housekeeping manager and the maintenance lead was that dad helped the boy bring the smashed maintenance truck back. There's a camera at the gate and both of them are on video. The carnage in the game room was apparently from a father/son "discussion" afterwards. The maintenance lead also told me that the golf cart they use was also totaled, the steering linkage is trashed and it was probably by the same person. The dad stood there and lied to my face. I just can't figure out why.
They're both getting evicted from the property.
The game room is back in order, we have both tunes and satellite tv. The problem now is that there's nothing for maintenance to haul trash or anything needed to maintain the facility.
The boy's being charged with felony grand theft auto. Personally, I think the father should be charged with aiding and abetting after the fact.

New update, 9-3-13
Talked to the Dad today. The board of Directors is meeting today and they're going to decide whether he gets evicted or not.
Dad apparently didn't know what was going on. After the police left, he punched his son in the mouth, loaded him, a small tent and a sleeping bag in his truck and dropped him off down by the river. He just wanted to get rid of that boy. He then told the police where they can find him. The police checked the wrecked truck for fingerprints and could only find Juniors. They have closely scrutinized the video and Dad's nowhere in sight, just his truck. The Dad told me that his son turned on some music at around 4am. That was to cover the sound of Dad's truck starting. the problem is that Junior's very capable, he just gets really stupid when he gets drunk.
There was a 3 day music festival here about 3 weeks ago and Junior volunteered to run the kitchen. He did an excellent job and was about to get hired as the head cook. Then he pulls this stupid stunt.
Tomorrow, I should find out whether or not Dad got evicted. He was just starting to make a name for himself as an artist and started selling some paintings. He also said that if they let him stay, he'll donate his truck to replace the one that his son wrecked. He has a Ford 4wd at his sister's place that he'll be using.


Last update(I think),
Went to the facility today to lift some weights and go for a short hike.
While there I stopped by Dad's place for a visit. He wasn't there. No truck, trailer or dog. I guess they kicked him out.
I kinda figured they would, he's a pot smoking alcoholic and while drinking booze isn't a problem there, they have a zero tolerance drug policy. It was bound to happen sooner or later.


Latest news,
Turns out he wasn't kicked out. He was caught on security cameras at the Dollar General stealing metal racks to sell to the scrap guys. There's a warrant out for his arrest. He's on the lam, running from the cops.
 
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Its a shame. If I were his father I'd turn him in hoping that maybe he'd learn a lesson. Seems harsh, but thats a lot of damage and as you said he's done it before. I had a problem in elementary school with bringing things home that weren't mine. When the talking and spanking didnt do the trick, he told me it was time for a ride to the state police station. Naturally as I would like to assume any 3rd grade kid would do, I balled my eyes out begging him not to take me to jail the entire way. We sat across the street (there was a burger king there) from the station, and he let me sit there in my grief for a couple minutes. He turned to me after an undetermined amount of time and says, "well...looks like they are not open right now. This is your last chance." He made me promised Id stop, and I did. Ill always remember that day.
 
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It is what is wrong with our society

Rant on!! People are not held accountable for their actions. As children, the parents dodge the responsibility. After they are "grown", society cuts them so much "slack" that they think they can get away with just about anything... and they do... because there are others who are worse than they are further along in their antisocial development. The solution is not pretty but the oncoming train wreck isn't either. Perhaps the train wreck will have to happen to give the "enablers" the reality check to shoot their own "spawn of the devil" and allow some of civilization to survive. A responsible person does not shirk from putting down his own rabid dog. Rant Off!!!
 
ask him to make good all repairs and apologize to all concerned, if he wont then press charges .
there is a lot of mixed up feelings and angst in some young people, i would try to get through to him before tossing him into the system and hanging a criminal record around his neck.
 
Before crucifying the kid, make sure he is the one who did all the vandalism. Just sayin...
 
Rant on!! People are not held accountable for their actions. As children, the parents dodge the responsibility. After they are "grown", society cuts them so much "slack" that they think they can get away with just about anything... and they do... because there are others who are worse than they are further along in their antisocial development. The solution is not pretty but the oncoming train wreck isn't either. Perhaps the train wreck will have to happen to give the "enablers" the reality check to shoot their own "spawn of the devil" and allow some of civilization to survive. A responsible person does not shirk from putting down his own rabid dog. Rant Off!!!

I agree my Uncle RIP, use to always take the side of his lowlife son, my cousin. When ever the police would take him in my uncle would accuse the law of picking on him. He lived in Baltimore City at the time. My wife and I knew some people that lived around the corner from him. and knew people that bought drugs and stolen items from him. Heck he even stole and sold some of my uncles firearms and said someone else took the from where he was living. Tried to tell my uncle about it but he didn't believe us either. Just total denial the his little boy could do no bad, my cousin was about 50 at the time. After he left Md because of pending jail time he went south no sure where, he lived there for several years and then I ran into him around where I live and found out they were looking to lock him up down there also. We still had the RR address at the time, and he asked where I lived as he had an idea where that was but had to find with the RR number. I went straight home took my name off the mail box and have no doubt in my mind if he came into my house to rob me I would have shot him. To his dying day I still think my uncle thought the police were picking on his little boy. AFAIK I don't every remember the boy ever working. Don't know what ever happened to him but he must be hurting now as my uncle isn't around anymore to give him money.

Heck it could have been him B&E as I know he lived out of his truck up here and the law already knew of him.
 
I have (HAD-I've disowned him) like that. He's been milking the system for years (disability for a finger injury=went to gunsmith school at State expense because of a wrist injury). Been fired for punching out his boss(es). Lived with my Mom for years without paying rent nor helping maintain the yard (forget mowing=he didn't even water the lawn).

Dad died before I (we) left SoCal. Then Mom got cancer. We went down to see her and she died a couple of hours after we left her. (At her request, I cooked her last meal-tortilla soup) I left the pot on the stove, in case she wanted more. The next day we met with the funeral home. "Trashy:" complained we "left a mess". Middle bro was on an elk hunt and had no phone service. So we put the funeral home on my credit card. Middle bro came back and reimbursed me from the estate. That day, my niece saw the trashy bro going through the bags my mom had put together for the heirs (grandkids and great grandkids) and taking things from them.

He then stole my Dad's guns and tools, changed the locks the next day and lived in the house for 5 more years, without doing any repairs or yardwork (my Mom's garden was her pride and joy). He sold things from the estate and pocketed the money. Says I ripped off the estate when I paid the funeral expenses and my middle bro ripped off the estate when he made repairs for the damage "trashy" caused. We settled on back rent (After we discounted the amount, he owes me $12000) and the middle bro waived any offset, just to shut him up.

Now he's demanding $5k or he won't sign the settlement. If he objects, it'll cost us (the estate) $40K in costs. We have receipts to answer every allegation he has made.

BTW: He owes his ex-wife 15 years back child support for 3 kids--close to $70-80K. His kids' have disowned him years ago and refuse to visit with him (We did an early settlement/disbursement of their inheritance because they were turning 18 and that way the money wouldn't go through him).

Part of me says fight him but wisdom says pay him the $2500 and move on.

Out of respect for my family, I avoided the services because I knew it would have turned into a fist fight. Everyone knew why and I received several messages of understanding. Our favorite aunt called and said she wished I had gone and let him hit me because we could have pressed charges.

Back-up plan: Estate transfers of firearms must be registered with the State of Cali==Middle bro and I are reporting Dad's guns stolen from the estate after we get everything settled.

TAKE HOME MESSAGE: You don't do your kids any favors by spoiling them. Middle bro worked his way up to a VP at B of A and I worked my way through college to earn 3 degrees.
 
Once they reach adulthood, you can only hope that they will emulate someone having he right values. Most of they rebel against the parents-To avoid the draft I enrolled in ROTC-a combat seasoned SGM told me I had the leadership qualities to be an infantry officer-that was it-a commitment. Lord knows where I would have been if I hadn't come across that guy. My son was working his way thru college-got tired of washing dishes-and went after an ROTC scholarship-he never intended to join the Army up to that point. He's now at CGSC. BUT I know many more young people who have either never met that "example" or have run with the wrong group. At 18-they are adults.
 
there is a lot of mixed up feelings and angst in some young people, i would try to get through to him before tossing him into the system and hanging a criminal record around his neck.

I believe the OP said he already has a criminal record. Apparently that hasn't corrected the problem. That alone seldom does.

I agree that proof is needed to bring charges: that's still the law of the land. But this kid is heading for bigger and worse things.
 
Well, it is plain to see why the "boy" turned out the way he has.
Yeah, this is a case where the nut didn't fall far from the tree. Dad's got missing teeth from fighting with the police and a criminal record for assault and drug charges. Mom was a crackhead until she killed herself. Dad didn't do too good of a job raising him.
 
Sad. But the argument that the kid wasn't raised right, while it's true and probably will be offered as a defense, doesn't relieve this young adult from responsibility for what he did. He needs to be locked up.

Unfortunately prison for most of these kids amounts to a graduate education on being a criminal.
 
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