Lots of good reading in this thread. My wife has a J frame snubbie and I have some loads made up, 158g plated RN over 3.8g AA#2. This load in my L frames is bunny fart material but my daughter asked me to teach her how to handle the J frame and so my hands were tied, I had to drop everything and take her to the range.
At the range I even have to admit that the above mentioned round is a handful in an airweight snubbie. So I have been trying a few things in an effort to give my daughter softer ammo that will encourage her to shoot.
After reading some and looking over my books I decided to try a lighter bullet and thus I'm using Hornady XTP 110g JHPs. I made up a selection using Clays, starting at 3.2g and up. I noticed that the 3.4 was accurate and soft shooting, the 3.8 was beginning to get a bit uncomfortable.
Sooo, I have loaded up a 25 rounds using 3.2g Clays and the JHPs and 25 rounds using 3.4g Clays for further testing. After re-reading this entire thread I'm thinking that I should probably make up some using 2.8 and 3.0 grains also.
So, now it's an emergency as I took both of my kids shopping for their Christmas gift and my daughter picked out a J frame #442 for CCW use. I have to say that it was a thrill for me to watch her pick out the gun and go through the paperwork with the salesmen who couldn't believe that she is 22 years old. But I'm looking for a very soft shooting but accurate load as I want to encourage her to practice often. Any advice to my particular situation will be greatly appreciated.
BTW, my son picked out an M&P Shield 9mm. They both know that I like S&W and I had my son look at others (Springfield, Beretta and Walthers) but he really seemed to want the Shield. With both of them I backed away and let them interact with the salesmen, fill out the paperwork and so forth, it was a real thrill watching them go through the process as this was the first time either have bought their own firearms.