It's my first post so be nice.......not to wade into too much of a quagmire I am looking at a wheelgun for simplicity. My wife target shot a Ruger .44 mag with a light mag load-and was OK with it. But I downloaded Federal's catalog and was looking at the hydro-shock's muzzle energy. The foot pounds for the .357 were right in there at 574 with a little more than all the usual suspects (.45 ACP, .40 S&W). The .44 mag was 780 (a lo recoil option was not offered in .44 mag). My wife's hand will handle a N frame (more mass so lower recoil) so I am considering a 28-2 or a 29-2 with a six inch barrel. I haven't shot a full up .44 mag myself-how much recoil difference is there with a N frame? I also have a HK compact .40 S&W or I could get a .45 auto full size five inch barrel. What do you guys think I should start schooling the wife with-am I going up the right tree?