Welcome to the forum.
I don't have personal experience with the Bodyguard 38 beyond palming a few at gun shows.
The early gun magazine reviews were positive, but gun magazine reviews tend to be. I recall a notable amount of initial user disappointment, which might have been birthing pains for the new model that are now ironed out, or might indicate a problem gun. Bear in mind that in online land more people post their frustrations than their lack of them, so appearances can be skewed.
Two more involved threads on the Bodyguard 38 from this forum are these:
http://smith-wessonforum.com/s-w-revolvers-1980-present/226520-s-w-bodyguard-38-any-problems.html
http://smith-wessonforum.com/s-w-re...47-38-bodyguard-another-lead-balloon-s-w.html
Some people like laser grips, others don't. They can be good at the range, but in a defense scenario I don't believe they add anything -- one is likely to naturally go to point shooting in such a situation (and probably should), so that should be trained for.
If the smaller J-frame short barreled guns like the Bodyguard work for you (they do have a more steep learning curve than their larger, longer-barreled siblings), I'd strongly suggest looking at a 442 Moon Clip or a 640 Pro. Moon clips allow for fast, reliable ejection and reload, and are a great addition to a defensive revolver, in my opinion.
The 442 is a lightweight, snub nosed J-frame; the 640 is all steel and has a touch more heft; it also has larger, three dot night sights, while the 442 has the more basic, small fixed sights that some shooters have trouble seeing (I don't).
Product: Model 442 Moon Clip
Product: Model 640
Good luck with your search; many good and knowledgeable folk around here to help you find what will work best for your needs and preferences.
I'm sorry for your loss.