I'm not opposed to spending a lot on a custom holster but is there any way to be sure that once you get it it will actually work for you?
I've also considered asking the police but we don't have any female officers in my whole county that I know of. I've already determined that most holsters designed to fit men don't really fit me that well.
Most female officers probably wouldn't be able to help you because, just like male officers, their holster needs do not seriously factor in concealment, comfort, and ease of use.
To Lawrence, Baabaa, and anyone else in the same dilema:
There are a lot of true custom holster makers out there but they are probably pretty busy making off-the-shelf stuff. I would suggest finding someone as close to you as possible.
I am a firm believer in not settling for second best just because it is the only thing you could find. The problems are that most of us don't really know what we want, and we don't have a realistic understanding of the material and manufacturing capabilities and limitations.
You may want to buy one of the hybrid kit holsters that allow you to adjust carry height and cant. A belly band or Smart Carry is another way to try carrying around your waist, or higher on your torso, either front and center or rotated to one side or the other. Don't think of them as a solution, think of them as an investment in your knowledge and experience. Once you find out exactly what you want you can take it to your builder and have a good, honest discussion about what you want in a holster and how they can produce it for you.
Once you find the thing that works for you it will become obvious that the cheap and/or easy fixes were only wasted money and effort. Keep trying, success is out there!
Jeff