I had a Ruger in .454 Casull that I couldn't shoot without thick leather gloves.I hated it;-)
This. I load “warm/hot” .44 Special loads in .44 Mag brass. Still pretty peek, but a LOT more fun to shoot. Basically it’ll handle pretty much anything in the eastern half of the country. Going where big bears live? Yeah, Mag loads. For general use/ plinking? Much more shootable “lite” loads.You enjoy a Magnum revolver by making your own ammunition----tailored to YOUR likes.
I, for instance, have fired exactly ONE round of factory .44 Magnum ammunition---40-50 some odd years ago. It was right then and there I vowed to come up with something civilized----and ACCURATE!! That turned out to be 18.5 grains of 2400 behind a 205 grain SWC with a gas check. I was later told that was a hot load for a .44 Special, but nowhere near a Magnum. I didn't care---it was civilized; and 4" 6 round groups at 100 yards says it's accurate.
There are those in the "Mine's bigger than yours" crowd who profess to enjoy the thunder and lightning guns. I understand that because I'm the same with cars--- and each and every one of us has the right to be a little bit nutty!
Ralph Tremaine
It is really just shooting a lot.
So shooting a lot of 38 Special was an easy upgrade to 357 Magnum and then up to 44 Magnum. If you just shoot a box of Magnums every time you go out to the range you will master the Magnums.
Get an N frame .357, like my Highway Patrolman. Put the big target grips on it. That ought to do it. If you still can't handle magnum loads stick to .38 Special. Or, as others have suggested, stick to .22's.