Jellybean, it's entirely possible that you were making some logical point when you made the accusatory comment regarding my earlier post in saying:
"...if the thread was about bashing someone for not choosing a "manly" caliber."
...but I haven't figured it out yet, since I was not "bashing" anybody, as you put it. I'm going to resist the temptation to characterize your post as "befuddled".
Just kidding.
Maybe.
Anytime somebody tosses out that term "bashing", it says something about the user that the user probably wouldn't want said.
But here you made a point that just doesn't fly, in my firm opinion:
"The object is to get her to..."
No, the object is not, or should not be to "get", or manipulate, anybody to do something they are not comfortable with, are not likely to become comfortable with, and are not temperamentally suited for, or qualified to do. Just don't do it.
If you try to manipulate the wrong person into making instant life and death decisions, you, that person, and others may come to regret it for the rest of your lives. And you would be rightly to blame.
And "a hit with a .32 Long..." is probably not often much better than nothing, and may be counterproductive, for reasons I stated. If you can't do it right, don't do it wrong, or you may wish you had not done it at all.
But your last sentence is 50% right on:
"An effective caliber is only effective in competent hands, other than that it's nothing but wasted ammo."
But that ammo could be much worse than just "wasted". It could be fatal to an innocent party.
Don't try to invent "competent hands" when there is ample reason to believe that a person does not want to be what you want him or her to become, or is probably unable to do so. We don't come in one size and type.
Most people who are primarily recreational shooters or collectors, and have civilian concealed carry permits, have romanticized ideas of what defensive or offensive shooting is all about. Gun writers, magazines, and forums like this one shape some of those mind sets. Nothing wrong with that. It's just how things go.
But please, back off, way, way off, on this missionary spirit thing, where everybody has to be converted to being a back yard gun slinger (or woman), ready to save the neighborhood or the supermarket in an instant, even if that's the last thing they would like to do, or feel comfortable doing. Yes, it would be nice if it could be prudently possible. But it won't be.
Some think they can, and know they have. Others think they can, and may do so, sometime. Most talk a good game, and have their hearts in the right place, but aren't cut out for it and hopefully won't get the chance to bungle things for those around them, perhaps fatally.
Don't get me wrong. I'm all for lots of people having lots of CCW permits, but I would like to see much more training and discussion of the decision making process, what to do when, and how to be prepared. In my state, such training is close to zero, and frighteningly inadequate.
Lastly, remember that most law enforcement personnel serve an entire career without ever drawing a firearm or firing a shot. Chances are remote that a S&W Forum member, a wife, girlfriend, or child will ever do so either. But it never hurts to have a Plan "B", if it makes sense and is not manipulative of another person, as I said.
My outlook is a little bit different, as I spent many years in situations where lots of thought had to be given to some of these issues. So it was worked out in my mind decades ago. I imagine the same is true with law enforcement personnel. Be a realist.
Then have lots of fun on the shooting range, and reading all the gun magazines, and in these forums, and fantasizing at gun shows. But reality is elsewhere. It is measured in foot pounds, mental and emotional preparation, quick analytical capability, and technical competence. Set aside the missionary spirit thing.
I guess if somebody would call this "stupidity bashing", I'd plead guilty. But maybe it's not stupidity most of the time...probably more like discussing football statistics. Just remember, hypothetical discussion fun is over here, and defensive reality is way, way over there.