Let me try to clear this up. When I try to get my wife to shoot some of my guns, she get a little overwhelmed with my sig p220 .45acp . She doesn't like the concept of inserting magazine, pulling slide back, chambering a round etc. With the shield I have, she never shot it. Wasn't fact of too much recoil she didn't like it, just same as above. I started looking and thinking a revolver would be best for her. This gun will be keep at home for the time period. in case I am not there and she would need to use it for self defense. If she chooses to get CC later on and carry it in purse then that would be an option. I also bought this gun, thinking if she doesn't like it. I know I do. I was just trying to get input if changing grips and loading it with 38 would be managable for her to shoot occasional to get comfortable enough to use it if she had to. Not looking to take it to range as a range gun or put hundreds of rounds thru it at a time.