I too tend to stick to the standard bullet weights per caliber/cartridge.
Unsurprisingly, the standard bullet weights tend to perform the best, receiving optimal penetration as well as reliable expansion with SJWC/JHP bullets.
In my opinion, lighter bullet weights are like +P loads, an attempt to turn a cartridge into something it was never designed to be. I've find it ridiculous when a particular alternative load's selling point is that; "It duplicates the performance of [insert another cartridge here]!" Because to me, if I wanted the performance of a particular cartridge, then I would just buy a firearm chambered in said cartridge.
Granted, there are some exceptions to this like .357 SIG, since it's a semiautomatic pistol cartridge which was intentionally designed to duplicate the performance of a specific .357 Magnum load which is a revolver cartridge. I'm talking about specific loads of existing cartridges like 9mm 124gr +P+ loads or .40 S&W 135gr loads which people praise for being able to duplicate the performance of .357 SIG.
I remember that for awhile when I couldn't afford to buy new guns, I got really interested in loads that could duplicate the performance of other cartridges, specifically overpressure loads like .45 Long Colt loads that matched .44 Magnum, for example, but the more I read into it, the more I realized just how impractical it was since you couldn't actually fire such loads out of just any firearm of hat chambering, you either had to modify the heck out it with more heavy duty parts, or buy an overbuilt gun that could handle the extra pressure, so it just made more sense to buy a new firearm chambered in the actual cartridge rather than soup up a load for an existing cartridge which was never designed to perform that way.
What finally broke me of my interest in performance-duplicating alternate loads was when I started trying to find out specifically what 9mm Luger Load matched .40 S&W/.45 ACP as the FBI claimed, only to find out that it was an overpressure load that folks advised against shooting out of anything buy a duty weapon, at which point I lost all interest, ultimately ended up buying a cheap .40cal pistol for $199, and I'm glad that I did because it has since become my favorite pistol cartridge.