Mother-in-law problems

[ingmansinc]

My mother-in-law is 84 and came to visit for a couple of weeks. Yesterday she told me I was a heathen and today she informed me that we would not be going to the same place when we died. I guess she thinks that her faith entitles her to special rules when it comes to manners. I know that some will ask what prompted the remarks and trust me it came out of the clear blue. I would blame it on her age except for the fact that she has done things like this for years. Then a little while later she will say something like, "you know I am just kidding". The only reason I put up with her insensitive rude remarks are because I doubt she will ever change and I want my wife and children to know her. This is just a rant and thanks for allowing me to vent.

 

[ingmansinc]

My mother-in-law is 84 and came to visit for a couple of weeks. Yesterday she told me I was a heathen and today she informed me that we would not be going to the same place when we died. I guess she thinks that her faith entitles her to special rules when it comes to manners. I know that some will ask what prompted the remarks and trust me it came out of the clear blue. I would blame it on her age except for the fact that she has done things like this for years. Then a little while later she will say something like, "you know I am just kidding". The only reason I put up with her insensitive rude remarks are because I doubt she will ever change and I want my wife and children to know her. This is just a rant and thanks for allowing me to vent.

 

[Tom Beavert]

Ingmansinc,
You are a gentleman to sit and take it.
So print out some photocopies of her face and go to the range.
keep the faith, your family is the important thing.
Be well
tb

 

[m1gunner]

If there is a God in heaven, you will not be going to the same place.

Can you imagine spending eternity with her?

 

[PLW45]

Ask her about that whole "Judge not, lest ye be judged" business.

I don't know if I could take someone talking to me like that in my own house.

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

My MIL is 83 and meaner than a snake for as long as I have known her (since '74)-they have adjusted he medication so now she is a little better, but I feel your pain my brotha. If you want to get back at her, kill her with kindness-as an example here's a list of some of the presents I have given my mother in law over the years.
A coffee mug with my picture on it
A beautiful bacarrat crystal.....crab!!
A life sized cutout of me holding two limits of ducks (this was a bit pricey-cost around $150 but I am the only son in law she has so I feel it's only right to go the extra mile

).
Use your imagination and you can drive her absoultely batsh!t crazy and no one will ever know it. My wife has three broters-their wives think I am a hero

 

[Miss Fire]

Prayers sent.
I must admit I am pretty darned lucky to have the MIL I do. One great lady, almost like the sister I never had. I think I spend more time with her than her own son does, and she is a part of the reason I picked him.

 

[Joni_Lynn]

You should have replied to her "I most certainly hope not!'

 

[rimfired]

God bless those who have their parents/IL. Wife and I spent 11 years caring for and burying our parents before we got married. Our only son has never known a grandparent. We're all going to be old and miserable someday (hopefully) that's what makes the world go round. Enjoy the time you have and "face piles of trials with smiles. It riles them to believe that you percieve the web they weave and keep on thinking free".

 

[Double-O-Dave]

I am truly blessed, my mom, God rest her, was not meant to be a mom. She was not a nice person and really should not have been a parent. I got lucky with my Mother-in-law who treats me like her own son, and is always kind, patient and generous to me. I have nothing but good things to say about her. Next to her, Mother Theresa looks like a baaadd girl.

Regards,

Dave

 

[roarindan]

maybe she's challenging you to a verbal joust to spice up her life, and she really is grateful for your company.

 

[Spotteddog]

My MIL (same age as yours) is a peach and just as nice as her daughter. But my first one?
Well, let's just say wait for April first before applying the silicone spray to the rubber anti skids on her walker!

 

[feldspar13]

I get along with my MIL fine since I divorced
her daughter

 

[CH47gunner]

My 75 YO mother-in-law has lived with my wife & I for the last three years, ever since my wife's father passed away.

She is a wonderful old style Spanish woman with no vices that I can figure other than maybe a little gambling at the reservation or Bingo at the church.

My wife and I had the den and an extra bedroom plus we're the only ones with no children left at home, so we were elected.

She looks for a place of her own off & on but no hurries.

I hope someone takes care of me if I need it.

Bruce

 

[ingmansinc]

Thanks for the kind and reassuring words from all of you. I will celebrate 42 years of marriage to her daughter next month and my wife has made everyone of those years wonderful for me. The MIL is the last living parent on either side and I can endure anything she can put out, but I must admit my DI in boot was a lot more fun. At least I knew where I really stood with him.

 

[ParadiseRoad]

...my MIL...is 75...and she's turning into a real pain...only sets her drink down long enough to light another cigarette...her brain is turning to swiss cheese...I'd feel sorry for her, but it's all SELF INFLICTED...

 

[jrd1976]

My MIL is great. She keeps telling my wife what a lucky catch I am.

The Mother-In-Laws Creed---No mother's daughter is good enough for another mother's son.

 

[HOUSTON RICK]

Mother-in-law stories! You asked for it. My mother is 80 and the Devil is already scared that he will have to move out when she comes down. I had the privilege of boarding her and her 82 year old beau for five full, uninterrupted months after Ike severely damaged her house. In that time, I provided every meal, bath and bit of shelter they had. They took over my widescreen TV to watch "American Idol", "Dancing with the Stars" and assorted crap at ear shattering volumes, every single day. Every night they cranked the heat on their part of the house up to uninhabitable levels. Last weekend, I moved all their stuff back to their refinished house. Never a thanks or smile, I have holes where I have bit my tongue for the children's sake. We will not be seeing them for a long time although they live 10 minutes away. I believe the word is hag.

 

[Forester]

Rick, Glad you could make it. New we would see you here sooner or later.

 

[GatorFarmer]

My mother in law is fine. True, she did apparently murder my wife's father years ago, but since no body was ever found, and I didn't know him... Eh. Later she was called the "snow queen" when she was dealing coke in Florida during the hey day of such and keeping an Uzi behind the door. These days she lives with some alcoholic fisherman who has no teeth. He's supposedly the best guy she's ever been with.

She's got some amusing stories to tell.