My Dad

[arjay]

It's a tough thing to deal with.Pops been gone for 25 yrs.Brilliant guy with a rough start,limited education and a difficult personality laid low by Alzheimer's.Ma was 20 years younger and I've spent the last several years watching over her as her mind slowly goes too.Moving forward is all we can do

 

[wood714]

Thanks y'all.

 

[woodsltc]

Others have already stated all the things I would normally say, so I will only state that your dad, you, and your family and loved ones are in my prayers. Peace, strength and comfort for all of you.

God Bless.

Don

 

[cherrypointmarine]

Sometimes it's comforting to just throw it out there . Although a lot of us wouldn't know each other if we met on the street , I'm sure we still consider each other friends , and friends try to console when something bad comes up in the life of another . All I can add is prayers , and they are heading your way .

 

[Greyman50]

Condolences to you and your family. Tough time, you all are in my prayers.

 

[Geronimo Jim]

God bless you and thank you for sharing. After watching my sister
die of Alzheimer over 10 years, take comfort in a better ending for
your father.

 

[lkabug]

It has been said that the best medicine for a weary soul is to verbalize the hurt.
Thank you for being able to verbalize such personal feelings. We do care. Our prayers are with your family and you.

 

[Hoosierville IRN]

Wood714, there's not anything I can say that hasn't been said already...but to let you know you are not alone in this. Prayers are sent upward to the Lord for you, your Mom, and your Dad. Both my parents passed in their sleep, and that was a blessing both to them and us. May God's peace and comfort be with you at this time.

 

[walkin jack]

Sometimes I find it cathartic in times of stress to just write/type it out, whether or not anyone else is going to read it. It allows me to organize my thoughts and stream them in a way that helps me to accept the reality of the situation and that can make it easier to accept.

Your mother will need you to be strong. she is going to need to lean on you and I believe that you writing this all out will help you find the strength to get you and your mother both through this.

I pray for a peaceful ending for your dad and for you and your mom to help each other through it. God bless...

 

[TX-Dennis]

Prayers for comfort and strength for your family, Losing a parent is painful.

 

[jdlii]

My Dad passed away several years ago but, not a day goes by that I don't think about him. I am sure you will make the most of what time your dad has left and that you will cherish the memories of the good times.

 

[old bear]

Wood714, holding my best thoughts for your parents and yourself.

 

[wood714]

Hopefully your mother's health is good. Keep her busy. Hobbies. Get her out of the house. Help her see her friends and family. That's what keeps my dad going after loosing my mother 6 years ago.

That's gonna be tough I live 897 miles away. All her family and friends do live close to her...except for me.

Trying to talk her into selling the Ohio house and their FL trailer and buying a house in my area, but I don't know how she'd like that. She has talked about it thou. She laughed when I said she could move in with me.

 

[robrossk]

My prayers for you and your family.

 

[chuckie]

Prayers on the way for your Dad, Mom and the rest of your family!

 

[Kenna]

Blessings to both of your parents. Stay Strong.

 

[Chubbo]

Time well spent.

I've never posted anything like this to my knowledge, but thought I'd share, get it off my chest, or just talk about it.

Last month my dad was admitted to the hospital a couple different times, and they found he had something called MDS. They scheduled him to get chemo starting this past Monday, 5 days on then 3 weeks off...told him it would give him 1 to 2 years to live.

He went to the doc's office Monday, and they told him his white blood count which normal is 9 was 49.5 last week and had gone up to 99 by Monday. Told him his condition was so aggressive there really wasn't anything they could do. He could still get the treatments if he wanted, but he had actually decided to not get them before going in that day.

My mom asked to doctor to call me and explain everything to me, because they were such a wreck she knew she'd forget something. His nurse called me later Monday afternoon. She told me everything and I asked if he would be in pain and she said no. I asked how he would die, and she said he would just start to sleep more and more, then one day or night just not wake up. She said he has 4 to 6 weeks to live.

I'm needless to say devastated, but it's a comfort to know he has lived a life many could only dream of. He got to retire at 50, spend every winter in Florida fishing almost everyday, and they never wanted for anything. I'm most glad he will go peacefully and without pain.

I'm worried about how my mom is going to get by. They've been married 66 years. My dad will be 87 on the 8th of this month, and she'll be 85 in September.

If things work out I'm driving up there this Sunday.

I'm in no way seeking a pity party, just putting it out there I guess.

You are fortunate in many ways. Today's technologies, make cancer patients a lot more comfortable. Be thankful, and take pride, that you are able, and choose to spend time with him. Some children can't or choose not to spend time with their parents in their last days. It's one small way to repay your dad for the things that he did for you'

You renew memories, of my daily visits with my Dad, in 1979 while he slowly expired, the victim of colon cancer, at age 75yrs.

 

[Muss Muggins]

The only thing I can add is to get hospice involved quickly. Everybody waits too late, and they are a blessing to the terminally ill and their family . . .

 

[Golddollar]

The only thing I can add is to get hospice involved quickly. Everybody waits too late, and they are a blessing to the terminally ill and their family . . .

It's almost 6 years since Pop died, 1 day short of his 87th birthday. Hospice moved heaven and earth to fulfill one of Pop's last wishes. He really wanted out of the hospital and to be in his home that overlooked Lake Erie. On a Sunday, Hospice was able to acquire a hospital bed and put it in the dining room so Pop could get out of the hospital and be able to look out over his beloved Lake Erie through the French doors. That was Pop's last eight hours on Earth, and I have been so glad that he was able to spend them exactly where he wanted to be, thanks to Hospice.

 

[Rustyt1953]

I talked to Kevin and he is busy packing and getting his house squared away for his trip north.

Marvin has been napping a lot and is comfortable. Kevin's mom, June, had hospice come in and set up yesterday.

Kev asks that if you are inclined to pray, do so for a gentle passing for Marv and for comfort for June as she has been hit hard by this.

PS: as if this wasn't enough, a car took out a utility pole and fried the breakers in Kev's garage. He recently quit smoking and he's thinking about firing one up. I sure don't blame him.