Congrats on your new 500! Glad to see you weren't scared off by all the hype.
I must have a defective 500, or perhaps the compensator works very well? Recoil is good, but nothing that would stop anyone from shooting several cylinders of 350grain bullets chrono'd at 1600fps. I've seen people say they shot their 500 one time and sold it because it was too much to handle. Huh? This too was my first revolver, and for comparison, I shot a friends 44 magnum that same day. The 44 magnum had around the same amount of kick, probably due to the 1.5 lb weight savings the 44 magnum has over the 8 3/8" 500..
While the 500 is a beast, it's myth is much larger than reality, at least with 350 grain slugs. I'm sure the 440 grain or larger slugs would be a handful. But you don't have to shoot any of the heavier rounds unless you really want to.
For target shooting at a covered outdoor range, it is both a blast and a curse. Some will complain about the noise or being hit by something everytime you shoot, so you quickly learn to switch to a quiet gun after every cylinder full, so that other nearby shooters can shoot comfortably. The whiners do get annoying.
Here is a photo of my 51 year old wife shooting the 500. Wow, she did not drop dead or break any body parts, and she wants to shoot it again.... I always do require anyone that wants to shoot it to watch several YouTube videos first, just so they can see the worst that happened to some, mainly so they hold on tight. Never anyone complaining that it was too much gun.