Generic answer #1 - Everything else being equal , +P will accelerate wear & tear * to some degree * . But usually such that starting with a new- ish revolver that a private individual who buys their own ammunition will never fire enough rounds to be an issue .
Generic answer #2 - Measured velocity differences between Std & +P varies with specific loads compared , and even lot numbers . If you said 75- 100 fps , that would be a rough rule of thumb . But certain standard loads that " run fast " can overlap with certain +P that " runs slow " . Or if you compare a generic std P vs a boutique +P it can be 200 plus .
Is an extra 75- 100 fps meaningful. At these levels ? It is endlessly debated b but my vote is for " often it is " .
The other important factor for your friend is which load he can best control , to include one handed , and weak hand only .
Specific Observations - I Have seen Airweight S&W have noticeable wear .
M37 no dash , used when I got it
I shot it a Lot , with std and +P . The ( stud on the frame on which the hammer pivots ) wore undersized enough for excess play there .
My 'smith knurled it . He said that brought it back to acceptable fit , but reserve it henceforth for actual carry , and minimal practice , don't go shooting thousands of rounds .
( I would have then gladly bought a brand new M37 Square Butt , but alas they were then discontinued in that format , and used ones at acceptable condition/ price ratio were rare .)