ancient-one
US Veteran
Mine has been prepaid for a long time. I still don't want it used for a few more years. I would like to make it to 100.
Pre-planning your funeral arrangements.
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Mine was paid off many years ago. Will be buried next to my parents and my wife in a cemetery in a small town in the Sierra foot hills. But not to soon, I hope.
There is a spot for me in a family cemetery plot, I have the deed for it. There is a book called "I'm Dead Now What?" You fill out all the important information that family and/or the executor needs to know.
Other than the cremation, funeral home will not be involved. My daughter has access to my main bank account and safety deposit boxes. Any celebration of life will be her and my son's decision. The only family I have locally are a grandson and a couple of cousins. Nieces and nephews are scattered all over the western half of the country.
Other than the cremation, funeral home will not be involved. My daughter has access to my main bank account and safety deposit boxes. Any celebration of life will be her and my son's decision. The only family I have locally are a grandson and a couple of cousins. Nieces and nephews are scattered all over the western half of the country.
carpriver
US Veteran
I have mine planned, no funeral, no obit, turn me into ash and send the urn to the a national cemetery with my brass marker. Estranged from my grand children and both of my friends have one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel.
My Better half and me have Neptune and plots in the WA VET cemetery
in Medical Lake WA.
Don't want to got to soon, but who knows.......
in Medical Lake WA.
Don't want to got to soon, but who knows.......
Needs yet to be done.
My in laws passed 10 or so years apart and the fact both were pre planned was a blessing.
I almost regret my wish for cremation, I'd love a closed casket while the organist plays Pop Goes the Weasel.
My in laws passed 10 or so years apart and the fact both were pre planned was a blessing.
I almost regret my wish for cremation, I'd love a closed casket while the organist plays Pop Goes the Weasel.
My local funeral home is having a hard time finding a Viking ship and getting a burning permit.
All you need to do is have your family rent an older gas engine double ended Bayliner, have them light lotsa candles in the salon, set the autopilot to go out to sea, put your favorite Smith and sword in your hands. and your wish will come true.
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I tried, but still haven't found a funeral home that will allow a service that's clothing optional.
I told my family at the time I wanted Sounds of Silence by Simon & Garfunkel played as they all have a drink.
I have left specific instructions on what else is to happen, which basically is as easy and fast as possible. No embalming, no wake, no services of any kind, the minimum legal death notice in the paper.
Also told them being I will not be around to enforce this if my wishes are disobeyed I will do my best to come back and haunt whoever deserves it.
I have left specific instructions on what else is to happen, which basically is as easy and fast as possible. No embalming, no wake, no services of any kind, the minimum legal death notice in the paper.
Also told them being I will not be around to enforce this if my wishes are disobeyed I will do my best to come back and haunt whoever deserves it.
I went to a funeral one time when, passing by the open casket, the departed had a banner across his chest that said DRINK BUDWEISER.
Don't know if that was a commercial or a warning, but it got a few chuckles and smiles.
Don't know if that was a commercial or a warning, but it got a few chuckles and smiles.
I need to get things taken care of so my children don't have to worry with it. Where we've moved to there is no family or friends (haven't been able to find a church yet either). Although my wife is a bit older than me I suspect I will go first. I've left orders for a closed casket.
Plan "B".
In the words of LTCG, "That there's funny, I don't care who you are!"
AJ
US Veteran
My local funeral home is having a hard time finding a Viking ship and getting a burning permit.
How is that going so far?
I want my ashes to be shot out of a cannon over a lake where a friend lives. His Mom and Dad were as everyone in attendance had some Crown Royal to toast the ceremony.
If I know I'm dying, I want a box of pop corn kernels to eat before my cremation. A window and video camera would be too much to ask for, though.
While no self respecting Viking would like to flame out in a Bayliner and possibly be denied entrance to Valhalla.....
maybe "hsguy" could be commissioned to build an oversized coffin Viking vessel.
Easy to build a remote controlled fire starter if there are no archers in the family.
Njord would look kindly on that, might be a great business opportunity and give the Neptune Society some competition.
maybe "hsguy" could be commissioned to build an oversized coffin Viking vessel.
Easy to build a remote controlled fire starter if there are no archers in the family.
Njord would look kindly on that, might be a great business opportunity and give the Neptune Society some competition.
LoboGunLeather
US Veteran
Having your arrangements made and your wishes recorded for everyone to know is good planning. Unfortunately, depending on the estate and probate laws in your state, none of that may have any legal effect unless you have a valid will designating an executor/personal representative to act in your behalf in settling your estate.
Four years ago we spent nearly a year dealing with the death of a cousin 2000 miles away from us. Single man, no children, only two known living relatives. Owned a home with mortgage, owned a car with debt, had all of his bills on auto-pay from his bank account. What he did not have was a will.
About a year later, and $15,000-plus in legal fees, court costs, admin expenses, etc, we were finally able to settle his estate. Six months to get the court to allow us to act as executor, during which we ended up having to pay all the bills with our money, no way to access his accounts at all. Doing all of this from 6 states away was very stressful and time consuming, to say the least.
Last will and testament, durable medical power of attorney, living will, directions on disposition of the remains, any designated gifts or bequests. Updated co-owners or POD on all bank accounts. Beneficiary designations on all insurance policies, investment, and retirement accounts. These are the minimums needed to save your family and friends from having to deal with a huge mess.
After travelling 2000 miles to get there I was first faced with a hospital morgue demanding that I get the body out of their facility. $5000 retainer to a lawyer to start the process. Seemingly to add insult to loss, the court immediately demanded that we post a $250,000 surety bond, then dragged out the decision for nearly 6 months before we could do much of anything. Disposition of the remains is a really tough decision to make. Several years earlier cousin refinanced his home, but the prior mortgagee failed to clear the title in public records, then went out of business (what a mess!), so the house couldn't be sold until all that was cleared up.
A few hundred bucks to your attorney can smooth out everything for those you leave to deal with your passing. If you don't have a will get it done now. If your will is more than a few years old it is time to review and update it to your present satisfaction. Copies of everything to those you are counting on to take care of your estate.
Four years ago we spent nearly a year dealing with the death of a cousin 2000 miles away from us. Single man, no children, only two known living relatives. Owned a home with mortgage, owned a car with debt, had all of his bills on auto-pay from his bank account. What he did not have was a will.
About a year later, and $15,000-plus in legal fees, court costs, admin expenses, etc, we were finally able to settle his estate. Six months to get the court to allow us to act as executor, during which we ended up having to pay all the bills with our money, no way to access his accounts at all. Doing all of this from 6 states away was very stressful and time consuming, to say the least.
Last will and testament, durable medical power of attorney, living will, directions on disposition of the remains, any designated gifts or bequests. Updated co-owners or POD on all bank accounts. Beneficiary designations on all insurance policies, investment, and retirement accounts. These are the minimums needed to save your family and friends from having to deal with a huge mess.
After travelling 2000 miles to get there I was first faced with a hospital morgue demanding that I get the body out of their facility. $5000 retainer to a lawyer to start the process. Seemingly to add insult to loss, the court immediately demanded that we post a $250,000 surety bond, then dragged out the decision for nearly 6 months before we could do much of anything. Disposition of the remains is a really tough decision to make. Several years earlier cousin refinanced his home, but the prior mortgagee failed to clear the title in public records, then went out of business (what a mess!), so the house couldn't be sold until all that was cleared up.
A few hundred bucks to your attorney can smooth out everything for those you leave to deal with your passing. If you don't have a will get it done now. If your will is more than a few years old it is time to review and update it to your present satisfaction. Copies of everything to those you are counting on to take care of your estate.
Maddog 521
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The Will is up to date. The columbarium is paid for. Ashes to Ashes will be notified where to pick up the body. No display or display box for me and no service will be scheduled. When it's time to go, I'll go.
My ashes will go to the Ft Meade Cemetary in Sturgis. No service, no nothing. No relatives in the US.
