Pre-planning your funeral arrangements.

[pharmer]

I told my wife, slit the sod and slip me under, keep the checks coming. Well, she gets the checks anyway. They have a "$395 cremation service" locally. It's a little more than I want to spend but a big fire in the yard is out. I want to go out quietly, like I was never here. Some tribes believe the greatest brave leaves no moccasin print, I like that. Joe

 

[keith44spl]

I's got a purty piece of burl English walnut....

Might make myself a fancy urn.

///

 

[VonFatman]

we have a couple plots at nearby cem. but in all honesty, we have reversed course and will be cremated. no services.
times have changed and so have our family situation(s).
life is full of changes!

i am always amused by "instructions" for a funeral or mass...many folks seem by-golly certain that once they have passed that their wishes will be carried out to the letter...
good luck with that ;-)

 

[Rustyt1953]

Can my dad play in this thread?

 

[kamloops67]

When we had the ceremony of spreading my step father's ashes on the family ranch , each person was invited to take a handful of ashes and walk a few steps away and scatter them
the wind shifted direction and everybody in attendance inhaled my stepdad 's ashes … something to think about and maybe avoid .

 

[vt_shooter]

There is a small general purpose airport close by, I know of a few cases where the deceased had a last ride and was sprinkled out over a Adirondack mountain.

'Couldn't pay me to make that flight. I can just see myself slowing the airplane down to slow flight, opening the window, sticking the container out the window, and somehow all the ashes would come blowing back in.

 

[SteveA]

My Dad is 95 now. His last years of practicing law were mainly probate and estate planning. He retired a couple of years after I got out of law school (he was in is early 70s) and started doing woodworking as one of his hobbies. Decided to build his own casket. We cut down the walnut from some of our ground, dried it and he crafted it. Finished the whole thing except the handles. I'm to add them when he passes. He keeps it in his shop. It was a good way to keep my mother out of his shop as she couldn't stand to see it. As for me, my wife assures me everything is taken care of, including my final resting place. Something to the effect of nobody will ever find it....!

 

[djohns6]

There is an Option called "Direct Cremation"
No Embalming No Casket No Viewing No Services
That's my choice and my family is Aware

That is our plan too . Also , no obituary in the newspaper . My wife's ashes will be interred with her parents and mine will be scattered in a place I have designated .

 

[djohns6]

I told my wife, slit the sod and slip me under, keep the checks coming. Well, she gets the checks anyway. They have a "$395 cremation service" locally. It's a little more than I want to spend but a big fire in the yard is out.

You better check into what $395 gets you . Cremations run into the thousands .

 

[djohns6]

As an aside , FEMA is still paying for funeral expenses for deaths that are related to COVID . Prepaid expenses are not reimbursable .

 

[ky wonder]

Bought our stone last month, will be buried in the family cemetary, where I will be among the 11th generation buried there,

I have a annuity set up that will cover the cost of funeral home,

I am the family historian of this generation
And I like to be able to walk among the stones of those who preceded me

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Once you die it is pretty much out of your hands what is done with your body

Your relatives will do whatever it takes.
They will take off your clothes
They will wash you
They will dress you up
They will take you out of the house and deliver you to your new address.
Many will come to the funeral to honour you.
Some will even cancel their plans and ask for leave to go to the funeral.
Your things you didn't like to lend out will be sold, donated or burned.
Your keys
Your tools
Your books
Your CDs, DVDs, games
Your collections
Your clothes...
And be sure the world won't stop and cry for you.
The economy will continue.
You will be replaced at work. Someone with the same or even better ability will take your place. Your property will switch to theirs.
And don't doubt that for all of the small and big things you have done in your life, people will speak about you, judge, doubt and criticize.
People who only knew you face will say, ′′Poor thing!"
Your good friends will cry for a few hours or several days, but then they will laugh again.
Your pets will get used to the new owner.
Your pictures will be hanging on the wall for awhile, then they will be put on furniture and finally stored at the bottom of the box.
Someone else will sit on your couch and eat from it.
Deep pain in your home will last a week, two, one month, two, one year, two...
Then you will join the memories and then your story will end.
It will end among people, end here, end in this world.
But your story begins in a new reality... in your life after death.
Your life is earthly - where you couldn't move with the things you had here that will all lose the meaning they once had.
The beauty of your body
Last name
Property
Loans
Career
Bank account
The house
The car
Academic titles
Classmates
Trophies
Friends of the world
Man / Woman
The kids
The family...
In your new life, you will only need your soul. The only property that will last is the soul.
So try to live your life full and be happy while you are here because, as Francis of Assisi said, ′′ You won't take what you have from here. You only take what you gave!"

 

[TEXASJake]

Bone box for me .... working on finding a site that will allow natural flesh removal ... bugs need to eat too (kids can have the bones and the #2 daughter wants to make a traditional bone box

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Is a place like "Legal Zoom" worth looking into for a will? Or is going through a lawyer a must?
Larry

A will is your last ever directive. In Louisiana there are strict formalities that MUST be followed for the will to be valid. All you have to do is to read the South Carolina statutes regarding what is the proper willl form, what you can or cannot do in a will, and then just whip her up-either by yourself or using lgal zoom'd "fit all" template. Go to a notary-sign as indicated by the statutes and yer done! The Notary will not inspect the will for proper form or content-their purpose is to just confirm that you signed of your free will and were not incapacitated.
f you make any mistakes in form or substance, the will will be declared invalid but by then you are dead and won't care-it ain't your problem any more.
It's cheap too. Legal Zoom charges around $75 for the templates-far cheaper than paying a lawyer $250-$350 for a consult and preparation of a simple will.
Never ceases to amaze me why people will pay me to do something they could do if they just researched the law themselves-it's all right thee for you to discover-everything is on the internet. Probably will take you about 10-12 hours to figure it out if you are smart.

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Wife and I did Legal Zoom for our wills. Easy peasy. They have a hot line with very understanding people that answered all our questions.

What happens if, after you die the survivor finds out that Legal Zoom screwed up???? Those "undestanding people" are very likely not licensed attorneys in your state and legal zoom's liabilty is zilch save for maybe refunding you the cost of the forms. Oh I forgot-see my post above-you're dead so what the hell

 

[WuzzFuzz]

In addition to all that Cajunlawyer wrote above, I would suggest one read.

OZYMANDIAS by Percy Bysshe Shelley

That will pretty much spell out how it matters.


WuzzFuzz

 

[twodog max]

My wife and I took care of all the legalities a few months ago. My goal is to leave the kids with nothing to do but take what they want, sell or throw out the rest and sell the house and land.
We will have no use for anything we own after we are gone so I am not to concerned with that. I just hope situation allows me to sell my toys before I go. If not that the breaks