Well, at the risk of beating this dead horse, most people aren't going to answer this. There has been so much invective thrown back and forth already.
Most people never get in a gunfight, and most shooters don't get charged or sued after the investigation. For those that do, EVERYTHING will be picked at beyond all reason.
"Back in the day" handloads may have been superior to much of the commercially available ammunition. Now, I just buy a box of Gold Dots (pick your own favorite defense load) and don't worry about it.