Hi, Dick. I wear a pair of Mechanix M-Pact gloves (not the M-Pact 2 or 3) when I shoot magnum handguns these days. They're thin enough to easily manipulate any handgun controls, but have padding in all the right places. You might want to try a pair for yourself. I cut the index fingertips off mine, but this isn't really necessary.
I think a set of Hogue Monogrips in your favorite wood might help, also. I used to have Hogue rubber grips on my Model 58, but, like you, couldn't stand the look of them though they were comfortable enough. Now it wears a Hogue Monogrip in tulipwood.