First, I would like to thank all of you for your responses. Especially you ladies that carry, and responded. My wife has read this thread and looked at most of the different options mentioned, and is interested in the Flashbang.
We talked about possible accidental discharge when holstering, and how easy it could happen with this type of holstering device. Since she is very familiar with the Springfield XD40, she wants to look at the XDS 9. With the grip safety & trigger safety, and proper training & practice, accidental discharge should not be a worry.
Have any of you ladies (or you guys' wives) carried this combo?