Why I sometimes loose my temper

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Wife goes to Destin with her mother for a long weekend. I get up this morning and the stove won't light. Gas is shut off

Call wife and she says she paid it-I said the gas is still off-tie goes to the gas company. Went through the stack of trash she calls her "filing" and find where she paid everything BUT the gas bill

Drive 15 miles to the gas company (by now it's 7:45 and I have to wait till they open at 8:15). Pay a $113 bill. They tell me they have to charge an additional $25 re-connect fee an additional $50 deposit and they'll be out Monday to re-connect!!!!!! Cost me ANOTHER $45 to get it done sometime today

Then she drops the bomb "SOmeone has to be home when the service guy gets there"

There goes work-thank goodness I don't have anything scheduled.
So I've just blown $120 in needless fees-have had to drive 30 miles round trip am going to miss a day at the office and I still haven't had my coffee yet!!!
And you know what the wife says???????
"I don't know why you are so mad-I told you I would pay you back" (She gets her money from the same place the government gets theirs-out of my pocket).
So I am waiting for the gas guy to come and the cold hard realization has just hit-that by the time she gets home Sunday night somehow this is all gonna be MY fault because I ruined her weekend by calling her and waking up the house this morning.

And they wonder why we die first......could it be because we WANT to?????

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Wife goes to Destin with her mother for a long weekend. I get up this morning and the stove won't light. Gas is shut off

Call wife and she says she paid it-I said the gas is still off-tie goes to the gas company. Went through the stack of trash she calls her "filing" and find where she paid everything BUT the gas bill

Drive 15 miles to the gas company (by now it's 7:45 and I have to wait till they open at 8:15). Pay a $113 bill. They tell me they have to charge an additional $25 re-connect fee an additional $50 deposit and they'll be out Monday to re-connect!!!!!! Cost me ANOTHER $45 to get it done sometime today

Then she drops the bomb "SOmeone has to be home when the service guy gets there"

There goes work-thank goodness I don't have anything scheduled.
So I've just blown $120 in needless fees-have had to drive 30 miles round trip am going to miss a day at the office and I still haven't had my coffee yet!!!
And you know what the wife says???????
"I don't know why you are so mad-I told you I would pay you back" (She gets her money from the same place the government gets theirs-out of my pocket).
So I am waiting for the gas guy to come and the cold hard realization has just hit-that by the time she gets home Sunday night somehow this is all gonna be MY fault because I ruined her weekend by calling her and waking up the house this morning.

And they wonder why we die first......could it be because we WANT to?????

 

[BarbC]

Caj, I have one word for you:

Autopay.

 

[godlessgael]

three deep breaths (or beers) and let it slide man, let it slide.

 

[rburg]

Boy do you have a lot to learn about retaliation. First, if the stove won't light and you're certain its turned off, you light the grill outside and make it for yourself. Or you take a drive to the nearest place to get it served to you. Then you return home, knowing home cooking is out of the question this weekend. If you feel the urge to go thru her bills, do it. Then when you discover its turned off, you just sigh and continue your life as if it hasn't happened.

You allow her to discover her mistake and if she comments (or not) just tell her she forgot to pay it. Even $5 coffee at one of the classy places is less than your 30 miles and $120. If your kids are home from school, when they ask for something cooked, just tell them "your mom forgot to pay the bills."

Plan on eating out with your buds for a few days. Or again, cook on your outdoor grill.

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

Originally posted by rburg:
Boy do you have a lot to learn about retaliation. First, if the stove won't light and you're certain its turned off, you light the grill outside and make it for yourself. Or you take a drive to the nearest place to get it served to you. Then you return home, knowing home cooking is out of the question this weekend. If you feel the urge to go thru her bills, do it. Then when you discover its turned off, you just sigh and continue your life as if it hasn't happened.

You allow her to discover her mistake and if she comments (or not) just tell her she forgot to pay it. Even $5 coffee at one of the classy places is less than your 30 miles and $120. If your kids are home from school, when they ask for something cooked, just tell them "your mom forgot to pay the bills."

Plan on eating out with your buds for a few days. Or again, cook on your outdoor grill.

Dick I thought about that but I really don't like to take cold showers. Plus it don't make squats difference who makes the trip and pays the bill-it all comes out of my pocket

I'll say this about a good rage though.....people do tend to leave you alone

 

[BLACKHAWKNJ]

If she gets her money from the same place the
government does-you-then inform her that due to the economic downturn there is a drop in revenue
and budget cuts will follow.

 

[Indiana George]

Cajunlawyer,

I have no idea how many trips around the sun you have made, but allow me to pass along story:

Many years ago, I made the painful mistake of telling my wife (now ex) that I was a better cook than she.

Some things ya just gotta let pass, brother.

 

[m657]

I really don't like to take cold showers.

....that ain't the only thing you might be dealing with cold....

don't ask how I know....

TIP: rburg is a man of experience and sensibility....no doubt having a similar episode in his own resume....

 

[ingmansinc]

Every time I get mad at my wife I remind myself of all the mistakes she makes, and the first one was marrying me.

 

[31 Pump]

A similar story. We moved into a new house almost 2 years ago. My wife had the electricity, gas, phones, garbage service, everything changed over to the new address. After living here for 18 months I come home and the water is turned off. I called to ask why and they said we haven't paid the bill. I get irate and say I have never been late or not paid a bill. They said to come down to their office to straighten it out. I start looking thru my records and found I have never paid a water bill in a year and a half. We never had the water service turned on when we moved in. I went down to the office and apologized for our mistake, paid the $500 water bill and since it was Friday and the following Monday was a holiday they couldn't turn it back on until Tuesday. I told them I would surely be stinking by then and was there any way they could so it sooner. Sorry Charlie. So when I got home I just went out to the meter in the box in the front yard and cut the padlock off and turned it back on myself. Problem solved.

Glenn

 

[35Rem]

But just think about all the money she "saved" at the outlet malls in Destin!!!!

 

[rewster]

Why would anyone in their right mind allow their wife to pay (or not pay) the bills. Sorry Caj but we all know you arn't in your........

 

[m657]

cut the padlock off and turned it back on myself

...around here there'd be a swat team & a news chopper....hefty city fine & ugly noises from what I've been told...

 

[NFrameFred]

Take a deep breath and good stiff drink . . . . in 50 years nobody will even remember this little incident . . . .

 

[tennexplorer]

Originally posted by BarbC:
Caj, I have one word for you:

Autopay.

I have nine words for you. Out of state safety deposit box and divorce lawyer.

 

[The Shottist]

Originally posted by rewster:
Why would anyone in their right mind allow their wife to pay (or not pay) the bills. Sorry Caj but we all know you arn't in your........

I learned a long time ago that it is better to have your wife take care of the household bills and reconciling the bank statements. I'm much too busy with work and other responsibilities to have the time to balance all the accounts and pay bills. If your wife is not capable, then that is a different problem. But generally, it is better to have her do it because then she can see for herself what the cash flow is and she can't say that I'm hiding any toy purchases from her. I just give her the receipts and she enters them in Quicken.

A man can still be the leader in his home and have the wife be the household manager that pays the bills.

 

[Catshooter]

CL,

You realize the cool hit your credit score just took, right?

If it was me, that would be the last of her paying the bills, end of story.

That said, Dick has it nailed. Telling her how stupid she ain't on the road to home harmony.

Good luck!


Cat

 

[jimmyj]

Hi:
Welcome to married life.
Accept full blame and apologize to your Wife.
Also tell Her that before She came into your life, your life had no meaning.
Your life will be so much happier and longer.
Jimmy (Wimp Man)

 

[Lionhound]

Caje,

Re: "No wonder we die first".http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w-aRaqsPf8
Old Alan King routine, but still funny.