Got to wonder why you are avoiding +P's? The difference in velocity between a Hornady CD standard and +P load is only 80 fps....so it isn't like the +P is some fire-breathing dragon load or something. A .38 fired from a short little barrel needs all the help it can get, so avoiding +P's seems unwise to me! Or if you must, practice with standard loads, and at least load +P's for self defense???
I have put enough +P's through my 342 (aluminum frame AirLite Ti) and Ruger LCR's (aluminum frame), to know these fire reliably and accurately, and they aren't going to damage anything. After testing them on a variety of media, I also conclude that they work as adventised (reasonable penetration/excellent expansion).
My 360SC (aluminum/scandium frame AirLite Ti) has had a few Hornady 125 gr .357's through it, and nothing untoward going on there....either.