Doc,
My wife and I have been through this over the past year and a half. She needed a mastectomy as well as lymphectomy. Thank God it had not spread further. Surgery, chemo, radiation, hormone therapy, and constant checkups, but she is pretty much back to her normal routines. It gets better, just take it as it comes and deal with what need to. Nothing matters but getting your honey better, and trust me, it will work. My prayers are with you and your wife.