David LaPell
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I have on occasion discussed some strange issues with my family, mostly involving my sister and my wife. Well, it appears that's coming to a close, sadly.
This past October, my sister went on a path of total self destruction, something she's been on now since she was 15, and that was thirty plus years ago. I had pretty much washed my hands of her because of her activities and her issues and the fact that she and I never got along, her threatening to call CPS on my son because she's angry, etc., well, she ended up turning all that hate and spite on my mother, her 30 year old son and my mother's boyfriend, and they were the ones who had defended her from everyone else. She threatened them, that she would call their jobs, make up accusations, etc.
It turns out that she was doing every street drug known to man including prostitution to make money. Then a week before Halloween she was nearly killed in a car accident. She crossed the yellow line and was clipped by a car coming the other way. She broke her left arm in two places, all the ribs on her left side, bruised her heart, kidney, liver and her spleen. She wasn't wearing a seatbelt and the airbag knocked out most of her teeth and she had a major concussion. For several days she was in a coma. There were drugs and an illegal gun in the car. That case was put on hold while she was in the hospital.
After a couple of weeks she got out, she really didn't have anything, then it turned out, the car wasn't in her name, it was her husband's but he died in August and she wasn't listed on the insurance. Worse, the day after the accident, someone called the insurance company and tried to add her to the policy, which sent up major red flags.
Fast forward to two weeks ago, my mother lets me know that she's moved my sister up from Georgia where she is to here, and that's she has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer that has spread to her kidneys, liver, lymph nodes and even her bones. My mother is worried that I will call the cops because she has a warrant out on her. I don't think there would be a point in calling the cops now. There's been some treatment, but as of today they admitted my sister to the hospital, it's about 6 hours away, but with Covid rules I can't visit anyway, none allowed. She now has cancer in her lungs and brain, her liver is failing, she can't talk now and she sleeps pretty much all day and night because of the pain, when she's awake, she's out of it because of the cancer in her brain.
I look back at her life and wonder, she's only 46 years old, and it's been a rough life. Drugs, partying, jail, etc and it's been non-stop. Worse is my mother who is in charge of everything won't call my nephew, her son to let him know exactly how bad his mother is, because he might "flip out" as she says. I don't have any way to get ahold of him or where he even lives, but it's not right. I have been in communication with my oldest sister who I haven't spoken to in 20 years to let her know, because my mother won't.
I've never seen such bitterness before in my family. I didn't get along with my one sister at all even when we were little kids, but I at least wanted others in the family to know what's going on, what they do with that is their business.
I also see a wasted life, and I think that's the saddest part of all. At 46 years old to see a life ended with all the drugs, criminal activity, etc. is a shame, worse when it's closer to home.
This past October, my sister went on a path of total self destruction, something she's been on now since she was 15, and that was thirty plus years ago. I had pretty much washed my hands of her because of her activities and her issues and the fact that she and I never got along, her threatening to call CPS on my son because she's angry, etc., well, she ended up turning all that hate and spite on my mother, her 30 year old son and my mother's boyfriend, and they were the ones who had defended her from everyone else. She threatened them, that she would call their jobs, make up accusations, etc.
It turns out that she was doing every street drug known to man including prostitution to make money. Then a week before Halloween she was nearly killed in a car accident. She crossed the yellow line and was clipped by a car coming the other way. She broke her left arm in two places, all the ribs on her left side, bruised her heart, kidney, liver and her spleen. She wasn't wearing a seatbelt and the airbag knocked out most of her teeth and she had a major concussion. For several days she was in a coma. There were drugs and an illegal gun in the car. That case was put on hold while she was in the hospital.
After a couple of weeks she got out, she really didn't have anything, then it turned out, the car wasn't in her name, it was her husband's but he died in August and she wasn't listed on the insurance. Worse, the day after the accident, someone called the insurance company and tried to add her to the policy, which sent up major red flags.
Fast forward to two weeks ago, my mother lets me know that she's moved my sister up from Georgia where she is to here, and that's she has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer that has spread to her kidneys, liver, lymph nodes and even her bones. My mother is worried that I will call the cops because she has a warrant out on her. I don't think there would be a point in calling the cops now. There's been some treatment, but as of today they admitted my sister to the hospital, it's about 6 hours away, but with Covid rules I can't visit anyway, none allowed. She now has cancer in her lungs and brain, her liver is failing, she can't talk now and she sleeps pretty much all day and night because of the pain, when she's awake, she's out of it because of the cancer in her brain.
I look back at her life and wonder, she's only 46 years old, and it's been a rough life. Drugs, partying, jail, etc and it's been non-stop. Worse is my mother who is in charge of everything won't call my nephew, her son to let him know exactly how bad his mother is, because he might "flip out" as she says. I don't have any way to get ahold of him or where he even lives, but it's not right. I have been in communication with my oldest sister who I haven't spoken to in 20 years to let her know, because my mother won't.
I've never seen such bitterness before in my family. I didn't get along with my one sister at all even when we were little kids, but I at least wanted others in the family to know what's going on, what they do with that is their business.
I also see a wasted life, and I think that's the saddest part of all. At 46 years old to see a life ended with all the drugs, criminal activity, etc. is a shame, worse when it's closer to home.
