Dealing with rude people

I am not sure what it is but I never meet any rude people in person, maybe its that I am 6 -4 at 270 lbs and I love to talk to people? Now rudeness has no bounds on the highway and the internet.

Alton, can I get you to go with me to WM this afternoon? I know that the MBH (much better half) has forgotten something and I will have to go there and search for it, dodge fast drivers in the parking lot, fight for a decent buggy, and generally put my life on the line. I'm only 5'9", 152 #, and besides that, I'm old.

Have a blessed day,

Leon
 
Thanks, fellows, for the responses thus far to my query(love the humor too).

What I'm gathering is that rudeness is a somewhat broad term referring to selfish behavior, usually blatant, and manifested in a variety of ways depending on the circumstances.

(And now you know that I have spent an inordinate amount of time in dictionaries over the years.)


Regards,
Andy
 
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BTW, she was not “ up in age” but looked to be 40 ish, and no she was No Lady.
She obviously had the all too common affliction of living that long, and being too stupid to learn basic driving and acceptable social skills...The poor thing is to be pitied, as are all those who come in contact with her...:(...Ben
 
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I don't think the percentage of rude people is any greater, rather with greater population density we run into them more frequently. Nor can it be associated with any ethnicity or socio-economic status. I used to joke that the worst drivers drove Mercedes Benzes-they think when they bought the car they bought the road.
 
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Working with the public for most of my life, I can be the king of sarcastic comebacks. Hate to use them but in today's world they have come in handy a few times. I would much rather smile and be nice.
It's the major "you know what" media and government that is pitting everyone against each other.
 
I think it would help if our political and cultural leaders set a better example of civility.

It seems to me that nowadays the behavior they model is often no compromise, self assertion. "My way or the highway. Me, me, me. Anyone who doesn't agree with me is the enemy and not to be respected."

Leaders did not behave that way a generation ago, and neither did the rest of society. Honesty, humility and, yes, common courtesy, were all recognized virtues.

It's an individual choice, though. Simply because it is acceptable, even encouraged and rewarded (more clicks, etc.), to behave badly nowadays, does not mean that one needs to join in rude behavior.

Go your own way. Buck the tide. Embody courtesy and respect for others.
It'll foster self-respect as well.
 
There are probably just the same number of rude people now as always have been but they are more brazen in expressing their ill manners these days for any number of reasons: believing they are special or entitled, being told that they can behave any way they feel like and others have to deal with it among others. They are momentarily passing through our lives so we just ignore them going about our way and realizing they are likely to encounter others just like them and sometimes even worse than they are and likely to experience their comeuppance.
 
I cannot define "rude conduct", but I know it when I see it.

"The phrase "I know it when I see it" is a colloquial expression by which a speaker attempts to categorize an observable fact or event, although the category is subjective or lacks clearly defined parameters. The phrase was used in 1964 by United States Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart to describe his threshold test for obscenity in Jacobellis v. Ohio. In explaining why the material at issue in the case was not obscene under the Roth test, and therefore was protected speech that could not be censored, Stewart wrote:

"I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description ["hard-core pornography"], and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I see it, and the motion picture involved in this case is not that."

The expression became one of the best-known phrases in the history of the Supreme Court. Though "I know it when I see it" is widely cited as Stewart's test for "obscenity", he never used the word "obscenity" himself in his short concurrence. He only stated that he knows what fits the "shorthand description" of "hard-core pornography" when he sees it.

Stewart's "I know it when I see it" standard was praised as "realistic and gallant" and an example of candor. It has also been critiqued as being potentially fallacious, due to individualistic arbitrariness.

This simple phrase, embedded in a plurality opinion, carries with it many of the conflicts and inconsistencies that continue to plague American obscenity law. In effect, "I know it when I see it" can still be paraphrased and unpacked as: "I know it when I see it, and someone else will know it when they see it, but what they see and what they know may or may not be what I see and what I know, and that's okay." — William T. Goldberg"

(Wikipedia, citations omitted)
 
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I still wince at this example of my own rudeness. I'm leaving work at end of day, headed to the elevator. See the door closing and call out "Hold the elevator!" Door continues to close. I manage to get an arm in the opening and get on. Give the only other person there a crusty look and say "First floor please."

He doesn't hit the #1 button so I reach over and punch it myself, another crusty look.

The guy, a maintenance worker in the building, looks at me and says in a difficult voice, "I sorry. I deaf."

It was a long ride to the first floor even with my apologies.
 
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I still wince at this example of my own rudeness. I'm leaving work at end of day, headed to the elevator. See the door closing and call out "Hold the elevator!" Door continues to close. I manage to get an arm in the opening and get on. Give the only other person there a crusty look and say "First floor please."

He doesn't hit the #1 button so I reach over and punch it myself, another crusty look.

The guy, a maintenance worker in the building, looks at me and says in a difficult voice, "I sorry. I deaf."

It was a long ride to the first floor even with my apologies.

Oh well, he didn't hear those either... :D
 
Lihpster, that iis a good story. the fact is that there is an infinite number of responses because there is an Infinite number of was to be rude. Also we must factor in the infinite number of personality types, mood swings, age, physical types, etc of the person being subjected to the rudeness.

When I was young I had a low threshold for that kind of thing. My response, circumstance not withstanding, was usually immediate and often over stated and occasionally physical.

But as the years and decades slip by things that used to get my goat have become less and less important to the point that I don't have too many "hot buttons" any more. As it turns out I care less and less what other people say or think.

If you consider the way the world is going I think this is just as well.
 
I was lucky and was 6'1", 195 lbs with a 18" neck, from wrestling and football in high school and still growing......

Never meet any rude people after I passed the age of twelve.

Some 5'3" "feather weights" do have the misfortune to get picked on but
if you are raised in areas that have good up bringings and teach you to treat others
as you would like to be treated....
life is grand.

Just that this kind of life is slowly being left behind, in our "New styles" that are taught today, on the news, net and at home.
 

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