Ghosts of Relationships Past

Onomea?? This is my perspective. Mind you it still hurts.

GOING HOME


It's raining today in Georgia as we weave north bound on I-85 to Atlanta. Ben's supplied the fuel, some for me, some for the Star Cruiser, and some for the cargo bay, a refrigerated trailer hauling frozen chickens. I'd washed the cruiser that afternoon, so I knew it was going to rain. Not a heavy rain, still it would have to be done again before pulling into, “Shakey”. That's Los Angeles to you who do not know the trucker lingo.
After a bit of time we are west bound on I-20. After setting the autopilot for the long haul I turned down the volume on the radio. The chatter was getting on my nerves. Two pilots arguing or maybe just bragging, over who had the biggest, fastest, or best looking, cruiser. Who cares, we all have the same job to do, move the freight from where it is to wherever it is wanted or needed. With the volume turned down so just the “Smoky” reports filter in, I popped a tape in and the mellow sounds flow out. Some Jim Reeves, Marty Robbins, Sons of the Pioneers.
“What's that about the “coop”?”
“Closed this side, set up and spot checking in Alabama.”
“Well what did you expect?”
Time now for some Roger Whittiker. “Make the World Go Away” (Please take all the dumb idiots in four wheelers with it.) “Have I Told You Lately That I Love You”, The Most Beautiful Girl in The World”.
Just a little mist falling now, almost like it was that time before. How long ago? One year or not quite. What day? What day?
I have the same load in the cargo bay this trip as we did then, the only difference is, this time we are going to Ontario, CA not Denver, CO. That time we filled up at Ben's first then down to LaGrange. This time we loaded in LaGrange then north to Ben's.
I remember now, it was on the seventeenth when last I saw her, we parted on the eighteenth, I to Denver, she to Atlanta. “Catch the comic book up tomorrow”, I had said to myself, “we are going to see someone that we've dreamed about for so long.”
How long had it been? Well thirteen years since we were last together. A different time, a different place. How good it had been.
This time when I got into town, I called her on the phone, “Please, how about meeting me here? I'll be waiting in the back room, a table for two, in the corner, near the back door. I'm wearing a blue and white shirt. I'll buy you dinner?”
Now who is that I see? My goodness what a beautiful woman. It is one lucky fella who gets her to sit at his table. I sure wish it was going to be me. Oh my god, she let her hair grow, it is me.
“Come and sit down.”
God how I'd love to hug her. Thirteen years and still I loved her. It's fifteen now.
What's that song? Rewind. Start over.

In the twilight glow I see her,
Blue eyes crying in the rain
As we kissed goodbye and parted,
I knew we'd never meet again....”

It wasn't twilight, more like early afternoon with dark clouds overhead. And her eyes weren't blue, rather they were green. The soft green of new sage leaves and the most beautiful rust red hair that you've ever seen. And when we kissed it was not a kiss of goodbye, but one of future promise. Like a spring rain on a flower bed. Not meet again, surely you jest. Ooh but I didn't know, and it surely wasn't our plan. We'd planned to meet again and again and again, just as we had done before...

“Love is like a dying ember,
Only memories remain,
Through the ages I remember,
Her green eyes crying in the rain.....”

You love someone, a most special someone, and then you part. Now with the right stimulus you can live those memories again and again. Maybe it did rain that day, or maybe the mist in my eyes makes me think it did....

“Now my hair has turned to silver,
All my life I've loved in vain,
And I see her star in heaven,
Her green eyes crying in the rain....”

When did this happen? It seems like only yesterday I was the young “Coastie” in love with this beautiful girl from “Bama”. They called me Jacques on the ship, but she always called me by another. It scared me when she called herself, “The Next of Kin”, 'cuse back then, on the CB, I was “The Wayward Wind”. After we parted I was always looking for another like her. Allowing my mind to accept, then reject, because something wasn't right. Her image, her thoughts, her voice, another just didn't measure up. Her star in heaven? well, where else would you look for an angel (with a wee bit of the devil in her I admit) but in the heavens? And I wonder, did I get the colour right this time? Who knows or cares, surely I don't. It is the memory of her crying on my shoulder that day which matters.


“Some day when we meet up yonder,
We'll stroll hand in hand again,
In that land that knows no parting,
Her green eyes crying in the rain.”

Well I hope it's up yonder. It will be for her I'm sure. But for me, well I believe a much warmer reception. Oh, how I'd love to be holding her hand this night. Is there a land of no parting, Truly that is a place of faith and dreamers, yet I hope so, because I've never given up the hope for such a time. And to see her eyes crying again, surely, they will be tears of joy and happiness.
Oh, to be young and in love. You tell yourself you'd never make the same mistakes, but you know as well as I, were it not for our past our present would not be as it is. Change the past and you change the future. And these memories you cherish would not exist.
Then I pass it, there on the right, or maybe... no that is IT. That is the exit. The police report says so, and as always when confronted with a mystery I investigated every detail. On a warm summer's night, tired from a long weekend visiting a friend in Atlanta, she turned off the Interstate to the highway home. There are two exists for US-431 northbound, one here and another about five miles up the road. And because she is tired and sleepy, she thought this was the correct one. It was supposed to curve right and merge with the northbound lanes. She knew this from having driven it many times. Surely there was plenty of time to rest the eyes, just one second or maybe two, then off she'd go, up toward home.
The eighteen-wheeler was stopped at the traffic light and... “Oh hell, what was that?” “Not good”, the trucker says to himself as he climbs from the cab. “Oh hell”, he said again as his own tears began to fall.
Smokey took him aside and told him once more, “It's not your fault”.
“Asleep at the wheel”, at least that's what it says in the accident report.

Now, as I pass the lonely exit, her green eyes watch me crying in the rain ....


Llance
21August 1992

Notice to the reader; this is a true story. No names are given out of respect for the dead. The author is also the narrator.

I was married then and still am, still I love her. I would have divorced my present wife and married her as I should have back when first we were together. The reunion was great, but a life together was not meant to be. If you're single don't let this opportunity escape you.
 
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Look up a song by Little Texas called "What Might Have Been" on YouTube.

I agree with the meaning of the song... but you got nothing to lose, maybe.
 
Ματθιας;141986946 said:
I've been so busy lately that I've not had a chance to wind down. I finally got a week where things are going back to normal.

This past week I've had a few weird things happen to me. But first let me give the background.

Back in the 1990s I met the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen at a dealership. I'd seen the reaction and the attention of all the guys that were there and I knew that I had no chance. I'm not the most handsome guy, either.
I was a lot attendant and she was hired as a sales rep durning one of the big tent sales. She was put in the delivery area with one of the more experienced sales lady for OJT. I was also in the delivery area, for, well, delivering cars. Instead of trying to hit on her and doing/saying dumb things to impress her, I treated her like one of the guys - and we became friends. Over the 7 or 8 months she worked there, we became close and would often find ourselves together - a lot. I saw her so much during work that I didn't think to ask her out or even ask for her number.

I don't remember why she left, but when she left, she left her business card with her phone number under my windshield wiper! I jumped on the phone and called!

We went from friends, to really good friends and more if you know what I mean It was the best time of my life! I hadn't been happier before or since! She's the love of my life! She's EVERYTHING I wanted!

Over time, because of work schedules, we saw less and less of each other and grew apart. We still talked on the phone regularly, but after a while, became clear to me that I was in the friend zone. UGH, In my inexperience and desperation, I became the very thing that she told me in the beginning she hated - needy and clingy.

I lost her. I hated myself for killing the relationship. It took me years to get over her. I thought I did.

I've had girlfriends before and since, but never anybody like her! I realize that what I remember is probably a distortion of what really happened, but...the relationship probably wan't meant to be.

Fast forward to this past week. I had some time off and I had a dream about her. From what remember it was about riding in a car together. I hadn't thought about her for years. Then, I was going though some old boxes and I find a Bible she gave me for my birthday. She'd written beautiful dedication to me. I'm not going to lie, I got teary eyed and nostalgic when I read it.

Then the strangest thing if all, I was watching a rerun of an old TV series, and I see her name in the credits. She has a somewhat common first and last name, and the series was made when she'd have been a young teen, so it's not her, but what a strange coincidence!

I don't know what any of that means, but why now? I find myself reliving those old memories and thinking about her. I've been thinking about her a lot. I realize that the person I knew so long ago no longer exists as she's changed and Ive changed. I thought I'd gotten over her but it seems I'm still in love with a ghost from my past.

There's a reason why she was in my life then, and there's a reason why the memory of her resurfaced now. What it is I don't know.

I'm debating contacting her through social media... I think the best thing for me to do is leave things be.


I know how you feel. The girl of my dreams ghosted me after my life threatening car accident and recovery. It’s best to move on
 
Kris Kristofferson said it best in one of his many hit songs he wrote for someone else:

"I'd trade all my tomorrows for a single yesterday
To be holding Bobbie's body next to mine..."

Kinda sucked for him because she died at 27 and (The girl who recorded the hit) the song came out after she left Earth. They had been together for a while but appearances separated them...forever.

Sugar & spice and everything nice,
Acid & smack and no way back. (From Go Ask Alice book)
 
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