HELP ME OUT HERE! AM I EXPECTING TOO MUCH OR AM I RIGHT IN FEELING DISSED?

[chief38]

My son has never brought a bottle over and yet continually asks for a horn of my finest sipping rye. I took an empty bottle of Reserve and filled it with standard issue, that's what he gets, and his palate never picks up on the difference.
I didn't get any idea of an age difference between you and the neighbor. I find younger guys to be more likely to commit acts like taking the bottle home and not bringing a smoke, usually our generation are pretty good standards of decorum and I have a few friends that almost go to far over by leaving you on the short end of return. One friend is a Bonafide Chef quality cook, it's pretty hard to reciprocate his generous treats, all I can do is return the favor in ways he can appreciate like repairing his tractor hydraulics.
Sorry your neighbor has a poor way of showing appreciation for your obvious good taste, just makes good friends that much better. Friends are family I choose.

For a Son or Daighter I could see clear to make an exception. That said, my son is always bringing over my favorite libations and has been extremely generous in that regard. He and and my DIL always send or bring a bottle of Sinatra JD, Michters, Wild Turkey Single Barrel - cask strength, Elejah Craig Cask Strength single barrel or similar. They have signed us up for the Cheese selection of the month, Coffee of the month, and citrus fruit of the month type gifts. My Daughter is also quite generous and always sends or brings our fav's as do almost all our friends. I am ALWAYS doing mechanical maintenance things on ac units, water heaters, generators, cars, boats, golf carts, etc. for my neighbors and friends here and most of the time I will get taken out to dinner or receive a good bottle. I have even received cigars once in a while.

I have no hesitation to offer anyone in my house a drink, glass of wine, cigar, food, etc. - it is our pleasure to do so and everyone else around here does the same - with the rare exception. Seems I've stumbled across one - lol.

BTW, some of our best times were impromptu when friends and neighbors stop by or we run into hem on the block and say,"what are you guys doing for dinner"? We have had some great impromptu dinners and get togethers. Our home is opened for family, friends and good neighbors. We love it!

 

[Buford57]

Hmm, I've been holding out on a brother in law that's wanting to borrow 50 bucks. I may just have a change of heart.

Adjusted for inflation, that's a bargain.

 

[BC38]

50 years ago I loaned a "friend" $20. Never saw him again. Fair deal.

This reminds me of what Sonny told C in the movie A Bronx Tale.
"Look at it this way: It costs you 20 dollars to get rid of him... He's out of your life for 20 dollars. You got off cheap. Forget him."
It cost you twenty bucks to find out he isn't a REAL friend? That's a bargain - it could have cost you more. Especially if you relied on him and he let you down.

 

[NFrameFred]

tact [ /tak(t)/ ]


"The art of making people feel at home . . . when you wish they were"

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

If I bring a bottle of anything to someone's house it stays, whether it winds up in the trash empty or not. Unless the owner specifically tells me to take it home, in which case I graciously comply.
That is just a man rule.

 

[WardenRoss]

If I bring a bottle of anything to someone's house it stays, whether it winds up in the trash empty or not. Unless the owner specifically tells me to take it home, in which case I graciously comply.
That is just a man rule.

Maybe it is a Southern Gentleman thing, but I was raised the same way.

That and if you are a guest, never eat the last piece of fried chicken. Never reach for seconds without first complimenting the cook then ask to "have a little more."


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[BLACKHAWKNJ]

Yes, freeloaders, moochers, spongers, people who borrow and "forget" go into my Black Book.