If you don't enjoy it then don't shoot magnums. Take it down to wadcutters if that helps it to be fun instead of painful. I am 5'9" and 170lb with pretty big hands and my favorite revolver to shoot is a 4inch Model 19 with 158gr magnums. I like the thump I get in my hands when I shoot it. None of my .357's have ever had any .38 Special in them since I got aholt of them. I do not think that enjoying magnum rounds is something that can be learned. Either you do or you don't.