I Do Not Understand This Mindset

Try riding a mountain bike
Don't I know it...
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Heck, even walking. Sometimes it feels as if I wasn't standing in front of my son he'd get run over.
 
Try riding a mountain bike

I got the same reaction in a convertible. We got a little Miata for city driving in good weather, but sold it after the strange reactions and attacks we would get. There especially seemed to be a problem with large American pickup trucks. Almost invariably at red lights, the occupants of the trucks would hurl insults, fast food garbage, lit cigarettes, large cups of Coke, etc.

My wife had several incidents while driving our grandson in the Miata, foul language, things thrown, and a kind of pure hatred we could not understand. This was no status symbol of a car - we paid $6k for it. Why did the people sitting in a $40k truck hate us?
 
to the OP's point of people not realizing that others may be carrying a concealed weapon, i never really thought about it until i decided to carry myself. But i find myself saying to my wife a lot when someone does something stupid-"don't they realize i could shoot them?" not that i would, but that they are creating a situation that given the right circumstances could escalate to something very bad.

case in point, i live in PA and we were pulling into a parking lot of a Walmart much larger than the local one. As we were waiting for a car to pull out of a spot close to the doors(not a necessity to us as i usually park farther away). a lady and her teen son, he was driving cut us off and took the spot...as they pulled into the spot, forcing us to wait as they drove by, the lady flipped us off. my wife and i just laughed. We parked about 10 cars past them on the other said of the same row. as they got to the store front, both turned and flipped us off yet again. the son then wiped his eyes like he was crying. again, we both laughed. We ran into them again inside, and for the third time, received the friendly middle finger hello. After they walked away, i whispered to my wife, "they must not realize i have a gun".

with all the people going bat crazy for no reason any more, it would be a good idea for everybody to avoid trying to one up anyone else...after all they could just shoot them...even in "non-carry" states

That's why some people carry stem tools and stem all four after they go in, not that that's the right thing to do, but it's an effective lesson.
 
That's just another one of the reasons I'm glad we moved out here to the mountains of West Virginia. People here know how to drive and actually have some courtesy to other drivers.
I remember when we first moved out here from the Washington DC area how suprised I was when a driver waved at me and it wasn't with his middle finger.

There are a bunch of Subaru drivers in WV. They stick a wing on the trunk and call it a race car then cut in front of you then go up a mountain with their little engine red-lined at 10mph below the speed limit.
 
Some of these storys reminds about this guy that smashed up his car on the way to work. After getting treated at the hospital he limped in to work only to find he had been fired. Then he took a taxi home and found a note on the table that his wife ran off with someone. There was a church across the road that he had never bothered going to. He was at the end of his rope. He crawled across the road, into the church, crawled to the alter and poured his heart out. Why lord? Why does everyone hate me? Things got dark. There was thunder and lighting. Then he heard this roaring voice. I dont know just what it is about you, but there is just something about you that I dont like!
 
I find it always helps to remember the bell cure. Using a standard deviation of 15 points.

The average IQ in the USA is 100.

68 percent of all people will have an IQ between 85 and 115, which means 34 percent will have IQ’s of from 85 to 100. An additional 14 percent will have an IQ of between 70 and 85. Hopefully those with an IQ lower than 70 are not driving in any significant numbers.

Based on this you have a lot of truly unintelligent people who are driving. Add to this those with an IQ above 100 who are just mean, angry, bad drivers, or crazy.

Add to this that people tend to feel safe when in their vehicle. This psychological feeling of safety encourages people to act more aggressively than they would in other situations.

Once you begin to understand how many stupid, how many crazy, how many crazy and stupid, and how many bad drivers there are on the highway, the amazing thing is how few such incidents we encounter.

Other factors that add to this problem are high density population and heavy traffic will add to people’s bad temper and acting out. Also as we become more and more diversified in population, we get many people who did not learn to drive until they were older adults or who learned to drive in a different culture.

Sitting in bumper to bumper traffic for 2 or 3 hours especially in Texas summer heat, while your car begins to over heat can make the best of us a little angry and short of temper. What would have been a 10 or 15 minute problem in the 1950’s and 1960’s can easily be a 2 or 3 hour problem today.

I avoid larger cities today because of high crime but even more because of the heavy traffic and congestion. As our population continues to expand, our infrastructure will become more and more over loaded, and so will out water resources and our electrical systems. Crime will spiral as will incidents of rage in vehicles.

This will only get worse, especially for those in larger cities. But it is spreading as more and more people flee the big cities for the countryside.
 
I got the same reaction in a convertible. We got a little Miata for city driving in good weather, but sold it after the strange reactions and attacks we would get. There especially seemed to be a problem with large American pickup trucks. Almost invariably at red lights, the occupants of the trucks would hurl insults, fast food garbage, lit cigarettes, large cups of Coke, etc.

My wife had several incidents while driving our grandson in the Miata, foul language, things thrown, and a kind of pure hatred we could not understand. This was no status symbol of a car - we paid $6k for it. Why did the people sitting in a $40k truck hate us?

Because you are having so much more fun (and a much better life) than those ignorant morons are. That fact, unfortunately, makes you a bully magnet.
 
Usually when people freak out, I just lay my hand on my holster and smile... knowing they have no idea how stupid they are really being. Thinking "I wonder how big of a bad *** this guy is going to be when he gets to my car window and is looking down the muzzle of a gun" gives me a laugh.

The one that pisses me off... women. Who yell, curse, cut you off, scream, flip you off, and other things that are just plain stupid. I have always wanted to get out, walk over to her car, and ask... What would you do if I took offense and wanted to hurt you? I don't understand why a 5 foot woman would scream/curse at a 6'2 200lbs guy. Does society have them brainwashed that they stand a chance if a guy looses his **** and decides to rearrange her face?

A few months ago I was pulling the race car trailer. At a four way stop (I will admit I didnt come to a FULL stop but was creeping forward until my turn) a woman refused to take her turn, instead just sat there staring at me. So going straight I just pulled out. She hits the gas gets to the middle of the intersection (after Im almost all the way through it) then slams on her brakes, lays on her horn, and flips me off.

I let off the gas and slow down, lean out of the truck and look at her and hold my arm up in a (what do you want?) kind of way. Her eyes get real wide, she backs off, and drives 10 under the speed limit until I turn off a ways down the road.

She was totally unprepared for any kind of response. What if I had been some psychopath? Her (and Im assuming her kids were the children in the back seat) could have all been in harms way just because she wanted to play traffic cop.
 
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Thirty/fourty years ago in california I did have a few incidents like you guys relate however I havent had any trouble like that at all especialy since we retired here to utah. Maybe they make gestures and I dont bother to see them? Its definetly a age dont diss me thing I think.
I have been in four major ones many years ago but not in the last 40 years or so. My mother died in 1993. I had just got the word and was going to get a hair cut to fly home. I was making a left turn and a young man started walking across the street after I started my turn. It was no where near close in the huge intersection but he yelled out the most vile thing he could call me concerning a sexial act with my mother. His timeing was bad as it was about a half hour after I got the word of her passing. I stopped my truck right in the middle of the intersection if you can belive that, and went over to him. He had a mustach and was I guess younger than I thought. As I came up to him he yelled he wasnt 18 yet! I didnt hit him but he froze right there and I pulled part of his mustach out and told him he wasnt going to make 18 if he said another word. He just stood there crying as I pulled his mustach out by the roots!
I know it was dumb but that is what happened. That was the last road rage incident I can remember.
 
I believe that the average person these days is a petty, small minded individual who thinks only of themselves. They hate their job, they're in debt up to their eyeballs, relationships stink and they are generally miserable.
Wrap them up in a couple of thousand pounds of steel and this is their own little world. Here they are in control. They are the Lord and Master. Heaven help anyone who dares disrupt their peaceful existence.
Anger is their outlet.
Road rage is their drug of choice.
 
I wish the anti-gun crowd could see this thread. It's a huge case for why gun ownership should be more wide-spread and acceptable. Most people who carry have no delusions of this being the wild west or road warrior. We are just as committed to non-violence as-if not more so than- these people. We are mindful of things in this world, we usually let cooler heads prevail. I've been in the car with many people when they lose their cool over minor slights on the road. I once had to put it quite bluntly to my mother after someone cut her off. "I don't want to shoot this guy because you're angry he almost clipped you," I said. She told me I was being over-dramatic, I told her people come to blows and worse over road-rage all the time. We don't ever know how someone is going to react, and it's often an honest mistake.
 
I hear ya

I drive over 100,000 miles per year as a semi truck driver. Think about a semi driver when you see one next time. Nobody ever seems to see them. They're like trees, so common and never looked at. I get cut off constantly due to people perceive me as slow. Yes, I'm slower than you, and you can accelerate a lot better than me, so why not wait an extra 5 seconds before merging in front of me so your rear bumper isn't rubbing my front?

Then there's new jersey drivers. They'll just turn and merge like they're the only ones on the highway. I slammed on my brakes 12-15 times per hour to keep from killing them. They trust random strangers with their lives while showing that middle finger and leaning on the horn...

You know how to drive safely and defensively. It's been taught before. You've heard a thousand times about following distance, blinkers, speed limits, and all that. So... they drive crazy on purpose?

the original point and click interface, by Smith and Wesson

it is likely that the vast majority of folks also don't have the foggiest notion of physics either or have seen what happens when an 80,000 pound truck with load collides with a 3,000 or 4,000 pound car.

I generally give truckers a wide berth not only for that reason and because it is the courteous thing to do but also because I assume that the trucker may not be able to see me and I DO NOT want to be in his blind spot when he (or she) decides to make a lane change - or needs to avoid some other idiot.

When sharing the road with truckers I am also wary of hills both up and down and the affect they have on heavy vehicles and adjust my driving as needed so that I don't inconvenience the truckers (in other words don't put myself in a vulnerable position should something bad happen regardless of cause or intent or lack thereof).

I will even make extra space when I see a trucker wanting to lane change and everyone else being oblivious - and will use the appropriate headlight signal to let the trucker know I am letting him in - many of them respond with the proper lights signal in acknowledgment/thanks.
 
File under Karma:

I'm northbound I-25, north of Denver in my pvt vehicle. Prima Facie speed limit is 75MPH. Freeway there is 2 lanes northbound, 2 lands southbound with a wide, unguarded grassy median between them.

I'm in the number 1 lane (inside, 'fast lane'). I'm doing 5 OVER the posted speed limit. Traffic in my lane is all doing the same. Traffic on my right is doing less. Generally Colorado drivers on those long, fast 'Autobahns' are pretty good about going fast over 'HERE' and going slow or exiting from over 'THERE'.

Kid in a CJ series jeep, soft top, is several cars behind me in my R/V mirror. He's zipping in and out of all the cars he can. Gets up behind me and is literally inches from my rear bumper. When the right lane clears, he swerves over there, accellerates to pass me on the right, flips me the bird, yells the obvious words, then quickly jerks it back left to pull in front of me.

Some of you are seeing the outcome already. That little short wheelbase CJ didn't like being jerked around so quickly while doing 90+ MPH. He rolled into the grassy median with at least two complete rollovers.

I went back. Stopped. Did my paramedic thing. He may be alive today but I doubt it. Head injury, ribs, 2x femurs etc.

I don't like seeing people get hurt or die. But people do. Safest thing I can do when I see someone driving stupid is to let them do it and call the gerndarmes.

I figure stupid drivers are one of two things -
1) Psycho, transient super-pissed, drunk, drugs, criminal etc
or
2) Genuinely clueless, don't realize not to tailgate, texting etc

Either one is not worth ME dying for. I'll get OFF a freeway or turn off a city street if it means I can avoid being near a stupid driver.

My van has full time forward and rear outside video cameras. I'm delighted to present video as evidence when appropriate.


Sgt Lumpy
 
Lumpy, I love you to death but if you're only doing 5 over, get out of the left lane. I got stuff to do and places to be.
 
I believe that the average person these days is a petty, small minded individual who thinks only of themselves. They hate their job, they're in debt up to their eyeballs, relationships stink and they are generally miserable.
Wrap them up in a couple of thousand pounds of steel and this is their own little world. Here they are in control. They are the Lord and Master. Heaven help anyone who dares disrupt their peaceful existence.
Anger is their outlet.
Road rage is their drug of choice.

That is one of the most depressing assessments of humanity I've seen in a very long time. I'm no Pollyanna, but I think the general run of people are pretty damn decent and manage to have some happiness in their lives. Doubtless they have their troubles and worries--who doesn't? They have bad days, as we all do. But on average petty, small-minded, miserable and consequently hostile?

If I believed that I'd never leave my apartment or speak to anyone. I'm really sorry for anyone whose view of people is that jaundiced and angry. For me it would be a terribly unhappy way to live.

I don't know, maybe it's just because I'm old and feel I have little time for bitterness.
 
File under Karma:
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I went back. Stopped. Did my paramedic thing. He may be alive today but I doubt it. Head injury, ribs, 2x femurs etc.
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Sgt Lumpy
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Self resolving problem, and fortunately he did not take anyone with him. Thin the herd by culling the unfit.
 
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