I don't know how to do this

[arjay]

Just show up Ron,you don't need to say anything [emoji106]

 

[johnbeaver]

... you left yet? Just go. Say a prayer or three on the way. You'll know what to say and do. But do not tarry.

 

[RonJ]

My Brother Bill is coming in from Virginia. I can barely walk so he will be a great help in getting me to her house.
Thanks for all the reply's, they are oddly comforting.

 

[jack the toad]

Lots of good advice already. Nothing I can add other than be there for support to her and the family if you can.
Prayers are with you.

 

[mr-mom]

Ron
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Go now, hold her, and let her know how much she is loved. That is all you need do. She will help you through the rest.
Dave
SWCA #2778

 

[BigCityChief]

Prayers offered for you and your sister.


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[jimtr6]

I wouldn't know what to say either. Just be there for her. If nothing else, be the strong, silent brother.
Prayers to you and your family.
Jim

 

[kozmic]

That's very tough news Ron. My best wishes to your sister, you and your family.

I think just holding her hand will do wonders. If anything needs to be said the words will come to you my friend.

 

[pawncop]

Nothing more to add to the excellent advice you have received. I will offer prayer from Texas for your sister and entire family. May her pathway be smoothed by the hand of God and may the other rest on your shoulder.

 

[4011]

She is your sister. Your having trouble walking. She will be more worried about you being there. Least that's what my sisters would have done.

 

[Donna K]

I was my moms hospice caregiver when she walked on from this world. It was really hard. However, the only thing worse than being there, would have been to not be there. Wishing you and your family strength and courage and peace.

 

[DeathGrip]

Ron, You know I've been through the wringer in the last half a year.

My sister is all I have left. She and her Husband have offered their home to me and my two dogs just so I can be near them. She's always looking out for me.

I'm not so sure I want to be in Dallas Ft Worth. But I do know that I really need to be there for her if she ever has need for me.

See how this works?

That's the part I need to convey to her but she needs to play big sister.

She's a cancer survivor and I thank God for that but I always worry what could come next.

I'll be there for her.

God bless.

 

[Cooter Brown]

Go quickly and visit while she is still able to communicate.Be strong for her and yourself.

Don't ask her what you can do for her.Tell her that you will take care of everything when she's gone.The less she has to worry about the stronger she will be to deal with the inevitable.

Reminisce about any good times growing up together.Remind her of what she meant to those around her and tell her that while she'll be missed she will never be forgotten.

If for no other reason just be there for comfort and support.

Ron, I'm sorry to hear about your sister.

Four weeks ago tomorrow my father died after a month in home hospice, and the advice Colte gave you is spot on.

I will add something that I've discovered after a few losses. It might sound hardhearted, but at some point this becomes something more important for the living than the dying, and the dying know that. For the dying it's an ending and something we all must do. But for the living who have to go on it's a great loss and a beginning of a sort, life without a loved one.

The terminally ill people I've been around came to this realization and worried more about the people around them, and were greatly comforted when they felt that their loved ones would be able to find some peace with the loss.

So take care of yourself, Ron, and go see your sister. Just being there and acting normally and telling her you love her will help her to know that you will carry on and honor her memory and the love you two have. She needs to know that Ron is still Ron and that while her life here is ending yours is going on.

 

[soFlaNative]

Sometimes family needs nothing from us except to know we care.
Prayers from here.

 

[ancient-one]

Just go and be with her, the words will come. She just needs to know that you are there. When I was younger there were times that I didn't go see someone because I didn't know what to say and i always regretted it. Later I always went and things worked out and I had no regrets.
You and yours are in my prayers.

 

[Rastoff]

Don't worry Ron, no one knows how to do this.

When my father was dying of cancer, I had the same thoughts. I just went to see him and we did what we always did; talk about stuff. He complained that the Browns weren't managing the team right. He gave me advice about how to deal with my boss. I told him stories from my job. We watched Rat Patrol together. We laughed at M.A.S.H. and wondered how much Johnny Carson made for talking to people.

Just do what you do.

Whatever you do, always remember, you're not alone. We're here for you.

 

[shouldazagged]

I'm terribly sorry to hear this, Ron. I went through it with my brother in August and September--he died on 6 September. The crucial thing for me to do was to tell him I loved him. That and let him talk about whatever he wanted to. We didn't leave anything really important unsaid, and there was peace for both of us in that.

I'm praying for you and your sister, and the whole family. PM me if I can be of any help, please.

 

[11B Lifer]

Caring

My wifes sister helped take care of her-cooked for me-and towards the end she just stayed with her-helped in any way she could-Just being there watching TV with her sister-helped. She and her husband are a part of a small group who tolerates my terrible behavior-and keeps me connected to reality-sanity. My friend, I am truely sorry that you are going through this-It changes your life-Just being kind and being there will help your sister.

 

[Eagle 477]

Go see her it will be awkward at first, but tell her you love her and let your heart do the rest... the rest will come naturally..

Rob