I have a model 66 k frame as u probably know and i am told not to shoot to "hot" of a load through it but i don't get what the grain of the bullet has to do with it. i figured the lower the grain the less hot it would be but i guess i am mistaken. I have 125 grain remington golden sabers and i am told that that is a no no. Please help me find a round that i can use both at the range and for self defense that wont harm my gun. And yes i do mostly shoot 38 out of it but i want to be able to reliably shoot 357 out of it when the time comes for it. Any help is appreciated.