Life can be so beautiful and yet inevitably becomes harder than we ever feared it could be, I was fortunate that I lived a great portion of my life without experiencing such personal loss, but in these later years it is unavoidable, coming harder and with increasing frequency.
Sincere condolences on the loss your family is dealing with. Nothing can be done or said at this point to soften the anguish. We never 'get over it', but sometimes we learn to live with it. God bless and keep you, and may good memories sustain you in this difficult time.