Is your better half for or against conceal carry ?

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Have been conceal carrying since the law was changed here in Illinois and I got my CCL. After getting my license I committed to carrying all my waking hours.

At first my wife wasn't completely in favor of my wearing a weapon all of the time. Especially in our home . Though she didn't really voice her concern after 45 years of marriage you can feel the displeasure !!

She then saw some of my practice targets and was asking how far I was shooting from . I'm a fairly good shot off hand 10 rounds at thirty feet in a 2 in group not uncommon .

That was several years ago and times have change with things happening where someone with a gun could have prevented a number of deaths .

She now has asked several times before going out "You are carrying aren't you" ! So her attitude has changed.

So what does your better have say about you conceal carrying ? Are they for or against ?
 
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She has no beef with me carrying, although she only does so herself when traveling. When we were dating, over 30 years ago, she asked if I carried off-duty. Yes. "Always?" Yes. "Even when you're with me?" Yes. (Big smile) "I feel safe, then". Her only complaint was that I wasn't using enough gun and my engagement present was a .357 snub to replace my .32 Browning.
 
We both carry everywhere we go. She is the one who first said we needed to get out Concealed Weapon permits. She carries Sig P238 and I just switched from M&P 9 to a Sig P938.
 
My fiance is totally against guns. If I carried I'd have to move. Fortunately she understands my friend and I going to the range every Friday for practice.

After all, I've been shooting all my life and it's the one pleasure she lets me still have as long as she doesn't have to see the guns.
 
when CCW permits became available a couple of years ago, we both sent in our applications on the second day. On the first day the system was bogged down. Our classes and qualification were completed a couple of months prior to.
 
My wife is my backup and vice versa. She has one gun more than I do, is a better shot, and also reloads her own ammo. She has been carrying for over 10 years now. She has gotten two of her girlfriends into shooting and one of them now also carries. For Christmas I gave her her very own AR so now I don't have to share mine any more.
 
She loaths guns. Is there a stronger word? A visceral loathing? She has not a clue what I own, doesn't know what a NFA item is, let alone that I have several. I have to CC from her.

She also believes I have anger issues tho. Some truth there.
 
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A few years ago on a Sunday the older woman from next store came over to my mother in law and told her that her grand kid had hit her and she feared for her life.
The EMS came and took my neighbor to the hospital to be checked out , she has a State person that she cares for that was at home and asked my mother in law to look after her. The father of the grand kid is a total IDIOT and was on his way home when the cops arrived to arrest the grand kid for assault. My mother in law went over to take care of the state person in my neighbors absence . That is when my wife said to me GO watch my mother, and are you carrying, I said of course. She was very relieved that I was to protect her mother. The father came home and made a big stink about the whole thing and got right into my face why I was there. I stayed calm and let the police take care of the matter. The grand kid was arrested and there was a restraining order put against the parents. I knew that if I had to draw my firearm to protect my mother in law or myself I would. I didn't like the feeling but it was what I was going to do. I only want to keep my family safe and myself.
 
For me - she's at least OK with it if not exactly enthusiastic about it.

Unfortunately for her, it's a non-starter. I wish I could convince her to get her CCW and carry, but I'm afraid it's going to take something bad happening to her or someone really close to her to change her mind.

The thing is, I don't think she could actually pull the trigger on someone even in self defense. She might be able to in defense of our boys (maternal instincts and all). But in simple self defense, she probably wouldn't have the nerve.

That being the case, I'm sad to say that unless and until she has a change of heart to actually be able to defend herself, I guess it's best she not carry. Hesitating and having an attacker take your gun from you is one of those things that pretty much can't end well.
 
After all the years of working, she's used to it. I always carry and always have. It took a little getting used to, but she is a police dispatcher and understands the whys and wherefores. She tolerates occasional shooting, but doesn't much like it and sees no reason for her to have a CCW (so far). She has had my old 66-2 duty gun in her drawer for years, but has rarely shot it. When she has, she hits what she aims for and I keep her shooting confined pretty much to room distance, although she is starting to stretch it out a bit.

Because she is a little recoil sensitive, I bought her an M&P22 and put a laser on it. She really liked that. However, I just couldn't reconcile that being her primary go-to gun. I recently bought her a .38 Bodyguard and am putting together some lighter SWC loads to break her in with the gun. She really likes the laser and the feel of the revolver. Wish me luck.
 
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