I carried a Model 39, 439, 6904, then 5904 as a service pistol. I shot competitively with each model and sent a lot of rounds down range with them. The running joke was that on my inspection reports, they should read "weapon clean, leaks oil."
The alloy frames will show some wear and tear where the slide makes contact. The frame is the softer of the two metals, so I would be looking at the slide and identifying rough spots that need to be cleaned up. Anywhere you see shiny wear marks on the slide, frame and barrel, the weapon should be lubricated.
I never bought fancy grease. I used wheel bearing grease, then synthetic wheel bearing grease on the sliding surfaces of handguns, M1 Garands, M1 Carbines, etc., and I still do. I used synthetic motor oil where oil is an appropriate lubricant.
If the surface spins or slides quickly enough to sling off oil, it's a good place to apply grease. You can use grease on the slide rails; I would apply it to the slide and watch for debris in the grease. If you see aluminum alloy particles in the grease on the slide rails, the grease is doing its job by suspending the particles. Grease tends to attract grit, powder residue, etc., so don't be alarmed. Clean the grease out thoroughly and apply fresh grease.
I had to have frames replaced on my S&W pistols with alloy frames around the 25,000 live round mark. That was about every 2 years. I never had one make it to 30,000 live rounds. I did a considerable amount of dry firing, which also contributed to the wear and tear.
Keep an eye on your draw bar, keep the weapon lubed and it should last you a long time.